I’ve never been a huge fan of Valentines day, mainly because it’s so commercialized. And red. And pink. Then with considering the personal relationship heartaches I’ve gone through in the past few years, I must say I’m fine it we skip right over it and move right along to Easter.
I would venture to say many people might even agree. Why? Because let’s face it – this holiday focused on romance either puts a lot of pressure on men and women alike to meet the love/gift expectations of someone else, brings disappointment to those whose expectations are not met, or elicits heartache for those who are secretly longing to have a special Valentine who adores them but instead they feel lonely and overlooked. Yeah, I get it.
But as I stated in today’s Proverbs 31 Devotion, If Only Life Were Like a Hallmark Movie, I think I’ve finally learned that Valentines day doesn’t have to be about earthly love the way we think about it, but about the one Love that never fails.
My faith has helped me realize that true happiness has to come from the only One who never lets us down, never leaves us, never abandons us, and never stops loving us – no matter what. No matter our imperfections, our flaws, and our failures. No matter our bad hair days, extra holiday pounds, and mood swings. No matter what.
Understanding that real love and joy comes from Christ, and not a person, opens the door for us to experience a true level of joy based on the fact that we are adored every day of the year. It brings on a different kind of joy, based on the status of our heart, not the status of an earthly relationship. A joy based on Him, and nothing else. Thankfully, I’ve finally realized that I should never put the key to my own joy in someone else’s pocket. I did that for far too long. Earthly relationships can add to our happiness, but they should never be what determines it.
As Valentines day approaches this month, what if we looked at this concept of the ‘love holiday’ with a whole new perspective? What if we focused on who we could show love to, rather than just who we are or are not in love with? What if we used this holiday to share the love of Christ with someone? Or even give the the gift of our time, instead of a gift bought from the store?
The only way to hang onto joy and happiness when you feel like Valentine’s Day is special for everyone except you is to remember where true joy, love and happiness really come from.
When you change the way you think about things, the things you think about will change too. In what way can you change how you think about Valentines this year and how might that change impact your joy for the better?
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