Yes, we’ve all heard about the shady movie coming out today. Yippee, just in time for Valentines Day – the day that is supposed to be dedicated to true love, respect, kindness and admiration.
I’ve not read the book, nor will I ever, and wouldn’t go see the movie even if you paid me. I even told my college age daughters just this week that I am fervently praying they wouldn’t even fathom considering going to see this movie, or ever reading one page of the book.
Why? Because I’m a prude? Because I’m a Christian? Because I’m a woman? Because I’m a Jesus freak? Because I don’t believe in sexual relations between a man and a woman? Because I’m old fashioned? Because I’m an over protective mother who needs to realize this is 2015, the decade of ‘anything goes’ ?
Because pornography is poison to the heart, soul and mind. And 50 Shades of Grey is pornography – aka, poison – in it’s most dangerous form.
It looks pleasing to the eye, and seems to be the popular normal thing to do, but it forms deep shades of grey in our spirits, causing one to doubt right from wrong under the weight of heated emotions. Making one believe that what’s done in secret is okay, while they slowly die inside, and live blinded to how their secret poison is changing them from the inside out and affecting real life relationships. All the while, slowly desensitizing a sense of ethics until they are felt no more.
The definition of poison is something with “an inherent property that tends to destroy life or impair health; something harmful or pernicious, as to happiness or well being.” Pornography steals hearts, kills relationships and destroys lives. Hmmm, the exact same consequences as ingesting poison.
From what I’ve read and heard about 50 Shades of Grey in Christian and secular articles, pornography is the lesser of its’ two evils. It’s also a story where the abuse, torture, manipulation, whipping, chaining, stalking, victimizing and controlling of innocent and vulnerable women is condoned and glamorized.
The devil is in the business of making poison look tasty. Dangling temptation in front of our eyes, making sin appear attractive, while convincing us that what’s wrong is really right. All he has to do is sit back and watch the tempted self destruct.
Our entire nation seems to be walking the road of seemingly tasty self destruction in so many ways, but especially in relationships. We see the destruction of the sanctity of marriage happening right before our eyes in almost every state, and the 50 Shades of Grey books have been translated in over 50 languages and sold over 70 million copies worldwide. As of this week, over 50 million people have watched the movie trailer. It’s heartbreaking, but it’s not shocking.
What once was taboo, is now coffee talk. What once was considered wrong, is now right, if enough people say it is. What once was held sacred, is now blasphemed in every way. What once was considered illegal, violent sexual crimes against women, is apparently now condoned. What once was held as beautiful sacred intimacy between a man and a woman in the way God intended it, has been drug through the mud for so long that now it’s hit an all time low.
I don’t care what our society says, this movie is porn and damaging to marriages and relationships. It’s against the most basic biblical principles, and it’s unhealthy and vile entertainment, no matter what our religious beliefs are. Healthy relationships are ones where the man is the protector of the woman; her provider; her beloved; one she can trust and confide in; one she can see herself spending life with, and being happy. Not one that is abusive in every way possible, physically, emotionally and psychologically. And despite what the movie might portray, surrendering to abuse will not change a man’s heart or have a happy ending.
It’s twisted planning that this movie is releasing during Valentines week, because Valentines is supposed to be a a holiday about heartfelt love. Yet this movie appears to be abusive poisonous pornography at it’s finest – nothing that has anything to do with real love and true intimacy.
I want my Valentine’s day and my marriage to be based on actual love and respect, not steamy poison that seeps into our bedroom and infects our hearts. I want my kids to grow up in a world where God is still seen as Sovereign and Holy. Where my daughters will know they deserve to have loving, gentle Christian husbands who protect and provide, as they desire to be loving, devoted wives who love the Lord as well. Where my son knows a woman is to be treated with gentleness, kindness, love and respect and that he needs to be a Godly husband and spiritual leader of his household. Where my future grandchildren will live in a world that operates under a moral compass of what’s right in God’s eyes, and not what’s right in the ever changing lack of morals of society and government leadership.
Movies like this tear apart the very core of what God intended for man, woman, marriage, family and individuals. And I for one, will not support it or see it. I refuse to be part of a statistic simply because it’s popular, because nothing about this movie portrays love, morals, integrity or falls in line with what I believe is right as a Christian.
A Valentine is supposed to be a message, gift or token of love that expresses sweet affection for someone that is treasured.
What would happen if all believers chose to stay home this Valentines weekend, away from the theaters, and instead focused our energy on the ones we love most, and the One who died because of His overwhelming sacrificial love for every living soul?
God’s Word is black and white, and there are no shades of grey. Now that is a Valentine’s gift I can get excited about.
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