Rejection isn’t just an emotion we feel. It’s a message that’s sent to the core of who we are, causing us to believe lies about ourselves, others, and God.
This simple quote above by Lysa about rejection. I so get it.
I’ve experienced the type of rejection that not only makes you feel you aren’t enough, but makes you believe you aren’t enough.
For months after experiencing a painful rejection, I literally felt overcome with worthlessness. I listened to every lie the enemy told me, and not only let his lies take up residence in my mind, but also let them take up residence in my heart. What lives in our heart and our mind will be reflected in the way we live our life overall. It’s hard to live a life of joy, peace and hope when the anchor of rejection keeps pulling you deeper and deeper into the darkness.
And in the dark, we’re blind. Blinded to Whose we are, because we’re focused on who we think we aren’t.
Lysa’s latest book, Uninvited, came at the perfect time. A time when I so desperately needed to be reminded of where my worth was founded. Not in myself or in the acceptance of others, but in Christ alone. I loved what she shared in Chapter 11 regarding the ten things we must remember when we’re feeling rejected. In this chapter, Lysa wrote,
“The enemy loves to take our rejection and twist it into raw, irrational fear that God really doesn’t have a good plan for us. This fear is a corrupting companion. It replaces the truths we’ve trusted with hopeless lies. Satan knows what consumes us controls us. Therefore the more consumed we are with rejection, the more he can control our emotions, our thinking, and our actions.”
I hate to confess this, but this quote sums how I spent was too many months. I knew God loved me, but I wasn’t feeling – much less living – loved. I knew He saw value in me, but I couldn’t see it in myself. I knew I could have peace in Him, but the dustcloud of lies in my head kept pushing peace farther and farther away. I knew He was in control and that His Word promises hope for the future, but I let fears overwhelm me.
You see, I allowed my feelings to become all consuming, and eventually, all controlling. And maybe you’ve done that too. But when we become consumed with our negative emotions which are entangled with the lies of rejection, we tend to forget who we are in Christ, much less that He has a good plan for us. We lose sight of the fact we are valued, loved and treasured, simply because of the words or actions from someone whose approval and acceptance we desperately wanted. We become blinded to anything positive, because we’re laser focused on the negative.
You see, rejection is a thief. Rejection is a peace stealer. Rejection is a joy stealer. Rejection is a hope stealer. Rejection can rob us blind.
But you know what? We all have the power to decide whether or not we allow the enemy to be a thief in our lives. We have God’s power residing in us to fight back against anything the enemy tries to take away – including our self confidence, joy, hope and peace. Satan holds no power to break in and loot our hearts and minds, unless we sling open the door and give him permission to roam. Lysa’s words in her new book became a salve to my soul just when I needed it most. It helped me shut the door on the enemy and stop letting him wreak havoc in my heart.
If you’ve ever struggled with feeling rejected, hurt or betrayed, whether it’s from the hurtful actions of a parent, a child, a boss, a friend, a church member, or a spouse, then my heart goes out to you. Rejection is no fun, and sometimes becomes a true test of faith. But sweet friend, it is possible to start climbing out of that emotional pit. If I can do it, so can you. (Insert me giving you a warm hug here) Smiles. 🙂
Below are the ten tips Lysa shared in Chapter 11 that we can remember when rejection strikes. Each section spoke peace and healing back into my heart, so much so, that I can’t possibly narrow down which tip I like most! So I have tried to engrave each of these in my memory so I can call upon God’s truths when the enemy tries to break in and start stealing again.
- One rejection is not a projection of future failures
- Rejection doesn’t label you, it enables you to adjust and move on
- This could be an invitation to live in expectation of something else
- there is usually some element of protection wrapped in every rejection
- It’s good to ask the “what” questions but less helpful to ask “why”
- Don’t hash, bash, or trash on the internet. Remember the internet never forgets
- There’s much more to you than the part that was rejected
- What one person sees as your liability, another might see as a wonderful asset
- This is a short term setback, not a permanent condition
- Don’t let this heartbreak destroy you. Let this breaking actually be the making of you. Let God use it in good ways to make you stronger and take you further.
In Lysa’s words, “the devil is vicious but he is not victorious”. Unless we let him be, of course. I refuse to let him be victorious in my life anymore – what about you?
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If you’ve ever struggled, or are currently struggling, with the heavy burden of emotions due to rejection, leave a comment on this blog post sharing which one of these 10 tips speaks most to you (0r you can pick more than one, if you’re like me!). Then commit to tuck that tip into your heart from this day forward!
** The winner of Monday’s giveaway for the Uninvited t-shirt is Christine who was notified via email. Book winner will be announced next week.**