Remember to Enjoy Being a Mom.. & a $75 Giveaway!

Have you ever had one of those days when you only have one little nerve left, and your child steps on it? Or your baby spits up on it? Or your teenager’s disrespectful words break that last nerve in half? Or when the stress of raising kids in general is making you a stress case?

Those are the days we don’t enjoy. Those are the days we want to scream. And if you’re anything like me, those are the days I want to pack one swimsuit and a towel and go on a long road trip to the beach – all alone – without a cell phone.

But although those days do happen, most days are spent being thankful for the little joys of being a parent, and I’ve learned over the last twenty years raising my kids, that what is considered “little joys” will change. Where I used to love the scent of my baby son after a bath and baby lotion, I now love the scent of American Eagle cologne he leaves when he come downstairs in the mornings. Where I used to love seeing baby dolls and ribbons tossed on the floor of my daughter’s bedrooms, I now find joy in looking at all the pictures of them with their friends, watching them find joy in working with handicapped children, and admiring their artwork which has truly become art.

Do I miss the days when my kids were little? Of course! Those years were filled with joy and purpose- plus they were so cute! Yet I also know that these teenage, adolescent and young adult years are just as sweet, as I get to experience the little joys of helping them succeed, work towards their dreams, handle life’s problems, and plan for their futures. Where I used to love all the things about them being little, now I enjoy the blessing of having three new best friends.

As mentioned in my Proverbs 31 devotion today, below are 6 tips for enjoying the season of parenting you are currently in, even on those days when you are ready for a road trip.  To enter to win the $75 gift card to WiseDecor and a second special giveaway, see bottom of the post for all the details!

6 TIPS FOR ENJOYING YOUR SEASON OF PARENTING

1. When you are feeling frustrated or exhausted, take a mommy timeout. Pause to think about all the things you love about your kids, and the little joys they bring into your life. Ask God to help you focus on the joys of parenting, instead of all the jobs on the parent to-do list.

2. Remember the importance of spending time with your kids, not just spending energy caring for them. Regardless of age, kids need quality time with their parents, doing things other than the normal daily routines. Think about what you can do ‘outside the box’ with your kids that will be fun and enjoyable.

3. When you are at your wits end – PRAY. Ask God to renew your energies and your spirit, and to help you see your children through the eyes you saw them with for the very first time. Sometimes the chaos of life blinds us to their preciousness.

4. Keep a list of the things you treasure about the season of parenting you are in, and think back to what you treasured in years gone by. As new memories come to mind, jot them down. Revisit this list each time you are feeling discouraged, asking God to help you see new reasons for joy in the new season you are in.

5. Don’t ever think your child is too big or too old for hugs or to hear that you love them. All humans – young, old, male, female – need affection and love. Even if they try to squiggle away, or just don’t engage in an embrace, a mom’s touch has power to reach a child’s heart.

6. Try not to compare yourself to other parents. Whether someone’s child was more easily potty trained, has better manners, or achieved more accomplishments in high school than yours, comparison causes us to focus on where we may have fallen short as a parent, instead of all the great things we have done in raising our prized posessions.

NOW FOR THE GIVEAWAY! 

Ever since I was a little girl, my family would stand around the table and say the Moravian blessing. My grandparents were raised in a Moravian church and left a legacy of faith in our very large family, and this blessing has always been special to me. Now as me and my children bow our heads before meals, this blessing is also said. So I decided it would be a wonderful keepsake for our wall, and ordered the words from WiseDecor.com.  Below is a picture of it on my dining room wall:

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If you have a special blessing,  a meaningful scripture or phrase that speaks to your heart about parenting or family,  and would like to put it on your wall, then enter to win the $75 gift card from WiseDecor!

To enter to win, simply leave your best tip for other parents about how to enjoy the seasons of parenting. I can’t wait to get all the great ideas and encouragement from fellow moms, and I hope they speak to you too!

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99 Comments

  1. Shelley Giguere on Friday, May 23, 2014 at 7:17 am

    Tracie, this was so encouraging! Thank you!
    When we were going through a difficult time with our son, we focused on God’s love for us. His love endures forever, and He does not repay us according to our iniquities. We prayed that we would love our son in that way, and have the strength to forgive. He had made a terrible mistake which would drastically change his plans for the future, so he needed to know that although there were consequences to his sin, he still had our love.



  2. Dana on Friday, May 23, 2014 at 7:18 am

    Today I am preparing to go shopping for the dress I will wear to my oldest son’s wedding this September. Lane and his brothers are all in their 20s now and out on their own. But for some reason this single task of parenthood – this seemingly unimportant decision of what to wear as I watch my son pledge his life to our wonderful future daughter in law – has opened the floodgates of memory for me. I think back to the day of Lane’s birth, the day of his baptism, the day he started junior kindergarten, the pictures of his senior prom, his high school graduation, moving him to college and then attending his graduation, and the day he left for a job in another state.

    How did all of these things go by so quickly? I vividly remember being told, when my boys were little, that I should savor every minute. That, before I knew it, they’d be leaving the nest to begin their own lives. And now I am indeed at that point in my life – so proud of Lane and his brothers for the fine men they have become, yet wishing I could snuggle with them as little guys just one more time. That must be why God gives us grandchildren, right?



  3. Elke Feuer on Friday, May 23, 2014 at 7:39 am

    Thank you for this wonderful post, Tracie!

    My husband and I have two magic tricks. We make sure we spend time together so we stay happy as this helps keep our family as a whole happy and second is to spend time together as a family having fun. Individual time with our kids is important, but so is time together as a family. That bonding time remind us to appreciate each other as a family and makes day-to-day caring for each other easier and enjoyable. It’s also great to laugh and just enjoy each others company while we can. Life changes so quickly.



  4. Sue Hillard on Friday, May 23, 2014 at 7:43 am

    This was the motto in our house when my kids lived with us full time (now in college):

    Luke 6:31

    The Voice (VOICE)

    “Think of the kindness you wish others would show you; do the same for them.”



  5. Susan on Friday, May 23, 2014 at 7:53 am

    Thanks, Tracie, for sharing this! Wow! The timing is so God! I want to leave advice but really I need it! I’m in the little boy to young man transition. And I don’t do this one well. I have 2 sons, 14 and 10. I’ve always had a tough relationship with my 14 yo. And it’s about this transition…how do I keep mothering but stop controlling and managing because they need to do more themselves?! Now my 10 yo is going thru it and I find myself fearing that I will push him away too. But I do see God helping me see the patterns that I don’t want to follow in our relationship but it’s not easy for me. I’m thankful for my husband who is trying to give me the male perspective as well as pointing out new things to try. One thing I do find that helps us is celebrating the milestones. We celebrated the last days of 8th and 4th grade just completed! We talk about the progress we’ve seen them make thru this year. We remind them of God’s faithfulness before moving right on. I’m not sure if that’s a tip but that’s what came to mind!



    • Lia on Saturday, October 4, 2014 at 9:46 pm

      totally beautiful card Bev, such a faobluus idea to use your stamps for the background,, they look amazing! these colours are so gorgeous and of course I love the inside of your card!Hope you are having a great weekend! Debx



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  6. Jennie on Friday, May 23, 2014 at 7:59 am

    Do a family devotional each morning is one way that helps us to remained focus and praying together to help one another and ask the kids how they can show the love of God to others.



  7. Christylee on Friday, May 23, 2014 at 8:11 am

    Thank you for the wonderful insight. I always just remember that “this is just a phase”. Since my boys were born I can remembering going through things and feeling quite overwhelmed and a friend said to me, “this is just a phase” and by the time you think you can’t handle it anymore, this phase will be over. She was so right and it really helped me to see the blessing in every moment of my kids’ growth.



  8. Sarah B. on Friday, May 23, 2014 at 8:16 am

    For me, the most important thing for me to enjoy my season of parenting is something that you have touched upon already. I need to remember to NOT compare myself, my parenting and my children to others. I am always quick to help my children realize that some boys will be better at some things (snow boarding, writing, etc), but that they also have their strengths. Now if I could just remember that in my parenting. Yes, some children may listen “better” than my boys, but they thrive in other areas. That goes for me as well! 🙂



  9. Cathie on Friday, May 23, 2014 at 8:16 am

    As a mother of five, I truly enjoyed the pregnancy part as well as I waited through the development of the child within. My advice is to purposefully be aware of the blessing you have been given, a positive mindset that God has given you a being to raise and care for and as they pass through each stage of life you are there. You were there to give, to take, to love, to discipline, to expect and to be disappointed, to laugh to cry, but most of all to thank God for the amazing privilege! And since I had some trying times myself, I tell other moms of teens that there is light at the end of the tunnel and you WILL survive.



  10. Adoption Mama on Friday, May 23, 2014 at 8:27 am

    As a mother of 4 adopted children, of whom three are teens, I am striving every day to parent them how Jesus parents me, as His adopted child. There is much emotion and anger every day towards me as their healing continues…and I beg God for the ability to love unconditionally. He gives grace daily.



  11. Denise F on Friday, May 23, 2014 at 8:29 am

    I, too, don’t have advice, but need it. I’m in the thick of it with sibling rivalry and disrespectfulness and my kids are 4 and 7. Everyday is an uphill battle. I pray for one easy, joy filled day. I know that this,too, shall pass and I’m trying to enjoy instead of just muddle through. I miss my sweet babies and I’m trying to find that sweetness in the chaos we now have.



  12. Sara Borgstede on Friday, May 23, 2014 at 8:30 am

    I love looking through pictures and photo albums of my kids and remembering holidays and vacations. I see how quickly they are growing! It reminds me to treasure these times.



  13. Sara Borgstede on Friday, May 23, 2014 at 8:34 am

    To the parents above who are struggling, I want to encourage you. I have 5 children and 2 are adopted with special needs. I don’t have all the answers. It’s very very hard. Some days I even question if I have the strength to do this. But God carries me! I wrote about out family at http://www.saraborgstede.com. Not trying to self-promote but I think the sharing might help as someone who gets it!



  14. Sarah S on Friday, May 23, 2014 at 8:34 am

    I blog about my little ones. It’s been so encouraging to me, especially on those hard days. When I finally have them tucked into bed, I can pull up a past post and it reminds me that it’s all worth it and shows me how much I am enjoying this season of parenting. I also pray and give gratitude that God entrusted these two little ones to my care. Just remember that each season is going to be hard, but also wonderful at the same time. You just have to make a choice where to spend your thoughts – on the good stuff or the not so good stuff.



  15. Gloria on Friday, May 23, 2014 at 8:47 am

    One of the best things you can do is always maintain communication with your kids. Allow them to come to you with anything and truly listen to them. Let them know you love them and are there for them even during the rocky times of the relationship. I have also stressed to my four kids (all young adults) that the family relationships need to be nurtured. Their friends will come and go, but if they keep their relationships to each other strong they will have friends in each other that will last a life time.



  16. kristen on Friday, May 23, 2014 at 8:47 am

    As for me & my house,we will serve the Lord.

    My little one is about to turn. Two this summer. I was just thinking the other day when he was first born I wished for the tine when he would be able to do some things on his own… now I wish I would have cherished the tine in the time it was more instead od wishing for the next phase..



    • Deb on Saturday, October 4, 2014 at 10:09 pm

      Oh wow Bev this is truley fauulobs, love this cute Tilda sitting elegantly on her horse, lol…. and the boarder looks gorgeous – love these fab colours and beautiful details.There’s a little something for you on my blog.HugsTracie :)xx



    • GopPy on Monday, October 6, 2014 at 8:56 pm

      This is just gorgeous Bev, love what you have done with the RST stpams…I’ve just packed mine away…good job they didn’t go altogether…quite a lot of stash has LOL! May just dig them out again now. Thanks for the inspiration.Carole x



  17. Deborah Mounier on Friday, May 23, 2014 at 8:52 am

    For me as a Mom of 4 kids, one of my best tips about enjoying the seasons of parenting is to find a sister in Christ that can walk with you, pray for you, laugh with you, rejoice with you, cry with you and encourage you. The best part is I can do the same for her. 🙂



  18. Chasidy on Friday, May 23, 2014 at 8:53 am

    This was a great reminder for me! I agree with the others. We spend time together as a couple when we can, we spend time one on one with each of our children as often as possible, and we spend a lot of time together as a family. We do our best to lead by example and pray, pray, pray. When struggling in a specific season, remember: this too shall pass.



  19. Kim on Friday, May 23, 2014 at 9:02 am

    I remind my girls that I love them no matter what, there is nothing they will ever do to change that. They also have a Heavenly Father that loves them even more, so much that we can’t comprehend it, and His love will not change. That brings comfort and peace to them and me.



  20. Angela H. on Friday, May 23, 2014 at 9:06 am

    I love what you said Tracie, about enjoying the phase you’re in at the moment with your children. I too miss the days when my children really needed me, whereas now I feel used unless I can do something for them. Guess having teenagers is part of this journey. I’m trying to enjoy each season with my children (the 5 I have) by embracing who they are and who they’re trying to become. I cherish the moments that bring us all closer and know the trying times are making my faith in Him that much stronger.
    Thank you Tracie for the gentle reminder to enjoy each season, even though it may be a long, rough one.



  21. Laura on Friday, May 23, 2014 at 9:12 am

    Thank you Tracie for this post and the Proverbs31 post today. Asking each of my children, and listening carefully to understand what the best and worst moments of their day were helps me see their perspective on life. Asking God to see them as He does and to delight in the little things that He does and that bring joy or tears for them helps remind me where they are and how I can celebrate and support them. What a true gift from God our children are!



  22. debbie herbst on Friday, May 23, 2014 at 9:13 am

    Our 2 kids are home from first and second year of college. so happy to have them, despite the challenges. I missed them so much but my wise husbnd would say, “but Debbie, I am excited to see what they are becoming.” this has encouraged me many times. My very wise mom would also say, “Debbie, you have to let them grow up.” Thank you for this encouraging devo.



  23. Kathy D on Friday, May 23, 2014 at 9:14 am

    One of my favorite things to do to enjoy them in the stage they are at is look at them while they’re sleeping. I also try to remember that the overall goal is developing the character in them that will glorify God throughout their life. Whatever stage they are in is a step toward that.



  24. Becca R. on Friday, May 23, 2014 at 9:15 am

    The days are long but the years are short. You can never get any of the little days back so remember to tell yourself “This is temporary.”



  25. Kristin Sparkman on Friday, May 23, 2014 at 9:23 am

    I just try and take a deep breath and remember how fast the time is going and how soon they won’t be here. I have a poem on the wall that talks about how my walls have fingerprints on them now but they will soon fade away and I remember that when I get frustrated and think how crazy it is now.



  26. Kelly on Friday, May 23, 2014 at 9:46 am

    “Listen, breath, and pray”– Always listen to you children, even when you’re mad. Let them speak and then have you turn at speaking to them. Sometimes we have to take a deep breath to keep our cool. And always pray about your parenting. Sometimes we pray for our children to behave the way we want, but we need to pray that we are parenting the way God would have us.



  27. Birdie Lipscomb on Friday, May 23, 2014 at 9:48 am

    We are in the seasons of change everyday, but it’s really evident in my family right now. My oldest, 10 year old Madeline, is completing her last year in the small town elementary school that both my husband and I attended. She will be starting a new chapter in life this August- Middle School, and has started playing softball here at the end of Spring soccer. My middle child, Jayla who is 6, is bridging to a Girl Scout Brownie and is excited about all that is instore. She’s exploring new hobbies and enjoying t-ball. Last but certainly not least, is Tanner my 5 year old that has finished Preschool and will be starting Kindergarten. I love the seasons of change that each of them are going through, but I also miss them as babies too. I always say that you don’t really know how fast time flies until you have children. I thank God everyday for the blessings he’s given me and especially for the one’s called children.



  28. Dori Sheese on Friday, May 23, 2014 at 10:02 am

    Pick your battles. Don’t sweat the small stuff. Don’t let the sun go down on your anger. This too shall pass.



  29. Beth F on Friday, May 23, 2014 at 10:05 am

    My only child graduated high school last night! WOW, talk about God timing with this post! She is an amazing yound woman, and I know she will do great things, and I am truly happy and excited about her future. But nervous about this new season and how all will change when she goes to college in August. I have just tried to enjoy every moment spent with her, even those “trying” teen years. But I pray that I will continue to point her to a life filled with God’s purpose. Thank you again Tracie for this post, I truly needed it this morning.



  30. Gay Lynn Hastings on Friday, May 23, 2014 at 10:15 am

    Thank you for this reminder. My college age daughter has been home sick all this week. While I was getting a bit frustrated with all my own tasks not getting completed, I relished in the moments when we snuggled on the couch watching old Disney movies. I know this time is fleeting. Spend time and remember the fun things you used to do with your children and revisit them. No matter how old they have become. You will laugh and cry as you remember the first time you say Simba, or watched Beauty and the Beast. It just reestablishes those feelings and makes them even stronger both for you and your “child”. Turned into a great week!



  31. Tammy Placr on Friday, May 23, 2014 at 10:43 am

    I am looking at a plaque over my desk that encourages me. It says “Share faith, offer prayer, gather hope”. I look at that everyday and remind myself that everything that I have done or taught my kids can be summed up in those words. I am going through a extremely difficult trial with 2 of my children, so I need all the hope and faith I can get. I remember the words of scripture that says to train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not depart from it. I cling to God’s word when life is not going the way I thought it would. He is faithful, even when we are faithless. Thank you for this giveaway.



  32. Holly L on Friday, May 23, 2014 at 10:51 am

    My children are still young, but as they get older and the battles come, I find it just as important to say to them every night the line from one of our favorite books “I’ll love you forever, I’ll like you for always, as long as I’m living my baby you’ll be.” It helps remind them that my love will never change and I can find comfort in those words knowing that as I say them to my children, God is saying them to me!



  33. Michelle Axton Kelly on Friday, May 23, 2014 at 10:53 am

    What a wonderful post to start my day! This week has been tough. Sister-fights-pajama-drawer-dumped-disrespectful-talkin tough. But it has been sweet too with my 5 year old decked put in graduation gear with a bug hug from her 3 year old sis. Today we are taking your advice as we head out to a farm to see the spring babies. No agendas. No to do list. Just time to enjoy this season! Also, this year my husband and I have been keeping a pretty journal in our kitchen. When the girls say or do something cute we capture it. At the end of the year we plan to snuggle with popcorn as we share these memories. This journal helps me stay in the moment and spy previous moments we’ll miss when they are grown. Thanks for the inspiration and reminder today, Tracie! Forwarding your post to my Facebook friends!



  34. Lori A. on Friday, May 23, 2014 at 10:58 am

    Remember that things are NOT more important than time.



  35. Melissa K on Friday, May 23, 2014 at 11:14 am

    Wow! I have no words. I have a 7 year old and twin 2 year olds and I feel like this was written for me. I have to remind my self often how the dishes and laundry can wait. I so want to just drop everything and just have fun with my girls. I don’t want to miss this time. I don’t want to wish it away. Thank you everyone for contributing!



  36. Chantae T on Friday, May 23, 2014 at 11:20 am

    Before I became a mother I never knew how much you could love another individual, be so in love with someone that the mere thought of anything happening to them could cause an unstoppable sensation to rise up in you almost instantaneously. It’s not just our motherly instincts that make us mothers but it is the fact that God had enough faith in us to entrust us with these precious little lives, to nurture and raise. I thank God for trusting me with the lives of my children, the flesh of my flesh. And I thank him for connecting me with such a wonderful women of God to teach me a long the wonderful journey called motherhood.



  37. Meredith Van Tamelen on Friday, May 23, 2014 at 11:41 am

    Enjoy the years as they grow and give them love, to discipline them when they need it and laugh with them, often.
    Even the grandchildren grow up fast. Love mine to the moon and back both the kids and the grandchildren.



  38. MissyB on Friday, May 23, 2014 at 11:44 am

    Thanks for your devo today. As a mom of two teenagers who is struggling with out relationships. I found the devo helpful and good reminder that I must keep training, teaching, helping and planning with them. This age seems very hard for me cause according to my teenagers I don’t know anything and they act like they don’t want my help and they seem very ungrateful at the things I do for them. Anyway, we shall keep on knowing this is a season as well and reminding myself of the good moments. Thanks for the reminder to write the good moments down so I can look back and read about those during the hard times. I do know something fun that is free most families can do that usually brings us laughter is looking at old photo albums and pictures and brings up good conversations as well.



  39. Emily on Friday, May 23, 2014 at 12:04 pm

    As a new SAHM I have found a great mommy community in MOPS. I so look forward to the fellowship I get to have with other moms going through similar things. I love the devotional time…the spiritual nourishment helps me through the week. My advice is find a community…whether it is in your church or in a group like MOPS. Everybody needs to feel connected and not alone on their mommy journey!



  40. Donna on Friday, May 23, 2014 at 12:21 pm

    My husband’s father passed along the Moravian blessings and faith. I too have reflected much on the parenting of my now young adult son. We have found what keeps a marriage and family strong is, of course, putting God first, going to church together as a family, doing activities together, devotions, teaching our son to put God first. Keeping a date night to model for him the importance of joyful christian parents which we started when he was about four. And teaching kindness to others, focusing on God and others and not self. Teaching our son how very important it is to hide scripture in his heart at a young age and encouraging him in his walk with the Lord to read, memorize, have an accountability friend and pray much over everything. Laughter and a sense of humor gets you through many difficult and fun times. When we find ourselves not acting so nice, we are able to catch and check each other with forgiveness by saying the word “Grace,” please give me grace, I’m sorry. Works so very well to diffuse challenging conversations. Give Grace and move forward. I have so many scriptures I love, but when I send cards to many of my church friends who are suffering with illness, just one I use is Psalm 18:32, “It is God who arms me with strength and keeps my way secure.” Perfectionism and inflexibility were two areas God has worked on and in me in my life and in parenting. Those are hard habits, personality traits to break, but with God, we know that all things are possible. Enjoy family. Enjoy life. Tell others your story when you can and let your life speak volumes about your love for The Lord, sometimes in place of words. Parenting never needs. Our children are in our hearts always, and even though our son is 23, and no we didn’t do everything right, but we don’t live in regret as we do not want satan to have the victory. That belongs to God. And we have a wonderful son who lives for the Lord and is living at home after college until he saves a little more for apt. life, he still respects and honors us and occasionally takes our advice. I’ve found it’s very important for me as a mom to encourage his independent thinking and make those mistakes as they better you. I had to constantly fight being a helicopter mom as my son required accommodations in school through college. To strike a good balance of making sure he received those accommodations and not concentrate on his challenges and never mention them to him as something that would hold him back took much prayer and still does. Parenting is a difficult calling in life but so rewarding. We need to constantly be on our knees in prayer.

    Sweet Blessings for such an encouraging post.



  41. Heather on Friday, May 23, 2014 at 12:43 pm

    My best tip is to let go of how you think something should be, and to embrace the moment as it is. Life with kids can be messy, loud, chaotic and unpredictable. When I am able to let go of perfection I can live fully right where I am!



  42. Jolyn on Friday, May 23, 2014 at 12:46 pm

    Prayer is always the best tip, but other than that, I try to find humor in times of sadness, grief or pain. Generally, my children fail to find ANY humor at first, but then, reluctantly, they will begin to smile and things invariably get better.



  43. Kim on Friday, May 23, 2014 at 12:48 pm

    Remember to breathe…and laugh!



  44. Jennifer on Friday, May 23, 2014 at 1:05 pm

    I love the quote: “enjoy the small things, for one day, you will realize they were the big things.” It’s so hard in the day to day grind to get swept away and forget what we are here for and who we are here with. I try to remind myself to just slow down and take each moment for its value, not looking ahead to the next moment, but being present right then, right there.



  45. Diana Rockwell on Friday, May 23, 2014 at 1:17 pm

    My sons are grown men but I remember so many of the hard times. Treasure the good times with your children because they grow up so fast. If you journal, write down the things your children say, write on the back of your picture who is in the picture, date,
    what was happening. There are several areas that were a struggle for me as a mom, helping with homework stands out in my mind, teaching them to love god, discipline, facing your child’s sexuality, and letting them go when they get married.

    As a parent one area that caused much disharamony and struggle was helping to get homework accomplished. Often I felt like I went through gradeschool, middle school, and highschool three times.

    So the first tip is read to your children from the time they are babies. I read from a children’s bible and all the classics. When they can read have a chapter book like my grandson says that you as a family are reading for fun in addition to what they might be reading for school. My boys struggled in school so reading was not their favorite thing to do but taking turns reading helps. I would always make funny voices, and yes I am guilty of skipping pages. Now as a grandma, I do not skip pages, I savor every tuen of the page, I wish I had felt that way as a mom.

    Secondly, I returned to college while my sons were in school, we would do our homework together so I would be busy with my homework and give assistance as they needed it.
    This worked well, so maybe this would help you, instead of preparing dinner while they are doing the homework, sit with them and have your own homework. Like a good Tracie Miles book to read. For example, “Stressless Living,”

    Thirdly, I often felt guilty because I felt like I was filing them as a spiritual role model. Often when they were little boys, I did not have time for my quiet time with the Lord, Guilt is a useless emotion so I started counting the time with my kids when we did devotions as my time with the Lord. Also, there are some great ways to teach your children concepts by talking about the bible story after the story with questions using the who, what, where, how questions. Or use the teachable moments to reinforce how much God loves them. I
    have two bibles with their names in the bibles, I started this when they were in there teens, in my quiet time I read each of the bibles when I am praying for them so as I read the bibles I claim promises for them and write the date. I will give the bibles to them so day. I do not know if they are reading God’s word but I often share encouragement from what I have read. Someday I will give them the bible, I have now incorporated their children in this bible.

    Fourthly, my husband and I often disagreed about discipline and so the boys knew this. If you have not had your children yet, talk now with your husband about how you will discipline your children. What ever you do when it comes to discipline present a united front, even if you disagree. Later behind closed doors discuss with your mate that you feel in my instance the punishment was too severe for the offense and then you can make a decision about keeping the same consequence or not. When it comes to discipline, if you are really angry, give yourself a time out before you dole out the consequence. Also, don’t threatened them with, “just wait until your father gets home.” This is not fair to your husband and it creates fear when daddy comes home. Have your child tell you why he or she has this consequence. That way they learn from the poor choice that he or she made. As a child grows, the consequences change. When my youngest son was three to age five, I had a sad chair. The principle was it made mommy sad when X Y or Z happened. One day, he was playing and went past his allowed boundary outside, and I yelled Dale Alan get back here right now, and he cried out, Please mommy, do not put me in the sad chair….

    Use the teachable moments to create a strong relationship with God. Share daily how much you love them, how the child is a gift from God, that he or she is fearfully and wonderfully made. That nothing they do can change your love for them. Instill the love of God’s word. Teach them to tithe their money. Don’t do everything for them, I taught my boys how to clean, do laundry, how to cook because I wanted them to be able to be able to take care of themselves and also to be a help to their future wife. Don’t be afraid to say “I made a mistake, I am sorry I overreacted, I am sorry I was so angry when. Decide guidelines on dating before he or she dates. My oldest son when he was seventeen said,
    “mom your morals are not my morals” he wanted his girlfriend to stay the night, I said my morals may not be your morals but your girlfriend staying here is not an option.

    Lastly, when they grow up and get married, treat your grown son or daughter as an adult. Show them respect. As a mom of two sons, I forgot for awhile that God says a man is to leave his mother and father and cleave to his wife, this was really hard for me. I
    made mistakes in the early years with my first daughter in law, there were hard feelings, I had to apologize. I realized it was jealousy. I was so jealous of the time they spent with her family, not having my grandson as much as her mom did. Jealousy like guilt is a useless emotion, I apologized and it took awile but the relationship was repaired. Now when I feel that jealousy creeping in, I confess it to God then pray that my sons will have a great marriage.

    One last hint, holidays are hard. So I had to accept that my sons have families and so I approach the holidays with gratitude and realize that the time together is more important than the holiday and one can celebrate Christmas on another day if needed.

    In conculsion, if you have never read the childrens book, “Love You Forever” by Robert Munsch please read it make sure you have tissue handy. There is a poem in every chapter. “I’ll love you forever, I”ll like you for always, As long as I am living, my baby you”ll be.” I think in our mother’s heart whether your child is two days old or forty like mine, our children will always have our heart and be our baby. Blessings.



  46. Emily on Friday, May 23, 2014 at 2:09 pm

    I am in the season of raising four children seven and younger. At the end of everyday, when they are all fast asleep I peak at their little faces, forget about the craziness of the day, and fall in love with them all over. I thank HIM that I get to raise these precious babes.



  47. Jeanette A. on Friday, May 23, 2014 at 2:15 pm

    So thankful for God leading Tracie to write today’s devo and each of the Moms to share the advice they did! An encouragement to this Mama’s heart and much needed truth for my mind. With five kids 9 and under, I’m choosing to “be in the moment” with our kids, not watching them enjoy the moment from behind the kitchen sink. Cuddle and read, join them for some hockey on the driveway, say YES to playing playdoh and digging in the flowerbeds, look at them and really listen, laugh out loud, dance to loud worship music, lay and talk with them at bedtime, savour some extra moments rocking the baby… Taking the opportunities for one-on-one moments, which lets each of them know how loved and cherished they are, and helps me delight in this loud, crazy, wonderful season of our family’s life. And GIVE GRACE – for I receive immeasurable grace from my Father!



  48. Chantal on Friday, May 23, 2014 at 2:27 pm

    I remember that my day can not be ruined by 11 am. Just when all has gone wrong and it seems like there is no recovery, I remind myself there is always time to take a breath and change the course of the day because of God’s grace!



  49. tmiles on Friday, May 23, 2014 at 2:47 pm

    These are all such wonderful and heart felt tips of advice from moms who have been there, in every season. What treasure nuggets we are all receiving today – thanks everyone so far for sharing!



  50. Nicole on Friday, May 23, 2014 at 3:25 pm

    These are awesome. Remember to capture the moments! You don’t always need posed pictures, take pictures that tell the story! Never be afraid to ask your child for forgiveness.



  51. Carolyn Rogers on Friday, May 23, 2014 at 3:32 pm

    Thanks for the devo, Tracie. I esp appreciate the tips…it’s hard to take that mommy timeout and then the guilt sets in because they are so wonderful. We’re Moravians too and it was great to see that scripture on your wall. Happy Memorial Day weekend!



  52. Kelly on Friday, May 23, 2014 at 3:44 pm

    As others have said, this devotion spoke right to me. I too often get caught up in households chores and things that “must” get done, and forget to enjoy my kids – especially at this young age when they WANT to be with me. 🙂 I hug them often, tell them I love them, and pray – a lot (mostly for me and patience!).



  53. Brenda S. on Friday, May 23, 2014 at 4:11 pm

    Loved your devotional! I too have had those feelings. I’m learning to take my thoughts captive through prayer and God has been faithful to calm those anxious moments. As it says in Psalm 51:10:
    “Create in me a pure heart, O God, and renew a steadfast spirit within me.”
    I’m also learning to not sweat the small stuff!



  54. Christine on Friday, May 23, 2014 at 4:18 pm

    My sister-in-law has asked me in the past, do I ever get depressed that my girls are growing up? Do I wish for the time when they were cute little babies? My answer was no; I love watching them grow up and become the amazing little people that they are! Granted, they’re only 7 and 5, but they are definitely not babies. We have had numerous “growing pains” especially when they try exerting their stubborn independence, so it’s not all been rosy. I have kept a journal to write down the memories, but in the busyness of life I have gotten away from it. So thanks for the reminder to get back to that habit, because these times will pass too quickly! I too struggle with spending time with my family due to demands of work and church obligations, and I resolved this week that I was going to take my girls to the zoo tomorrow, rain or shine! Well, drizzle, or shine! I’m looking forward to creating more memories with them. Thanks Tracie for the encouragement and reminders! Cherish memories past, enjoy the blessings of today. That is why it is called the present – it’s a gift from God.



  55. missy on Friday, May 23, 2014 at 5:11 pm

    alot of times my children take things for grated, for that matter mom and dad do too. to remind them how blessed we are,we serve in a homeless shelter. we always serve thanksgiving day, and some through out the year. on thanksgiving, my children are not allowed to eat until after we have served, and clened up and we are at home for dinner. its terriblt painful on my duaghter, because she needs to eat every few hours, not for a medical condition, she is just a sheep and grazes alot. i remind her tnat this is the only hot meal alot of those people will recieve, not just today, but possibly for tne week. it helps bring us all back to reality and realize our blessings



  56. Niki Blake on Friday, May 23, 2014 at 6:07 pm

    With SEnior day today and graduation looming in two weeks for my oldest, I soOOO needed this reminder today. I am so grateful God is constant. That He never changes….even when my children do. 🙂 The best parenting advice I can give? ALWAYS tell them you love them….always. All three of my boys speak these three words freely and I am so glad…to me, to each other, to their dad….their grandparents. They will never outgrow it and never tire of hearing it. 🙂



  57. Margie brown on Friday, May 23, 2014 at 7:12 pm

    I have a daughter that has ADHD and she has always been so active. When she was little I felt like she thought her name was No I had to learn to pick my battles with her. She has grown up to be a wonderful young woman. She is now a youth Miinester.



  58. Leigh Anne Hutto on Friday, May 23, 2014 at 7:50 pm

    “Bad moments don’t make you a bad mom.” -Lisa Tuerkyrst



  59. Deanna on Friday, May 23, 2014 at 8:58 pm

    Our 3 sons thought it was a game growing up but my hubby and I used it as a winow into their day…usually at dinner, even if it was fast food in the car on the away to a game. Everyone says something positive that happened today, then we say something not so good, then we end with something positive. Good things usually kept the conversation flowing, bad things let us know what was going on in their lives. Whenever friends came over, the boys explain to them the “rules of the game”, so I think they actually like sharing now – although we still have the occasional bad day where they’re thankful to be done. LOL



  60. Sara on Friday, May 23, 2014 at 9:56 pm

    As a mom to 3 young children I don’t feel like I have a ton of advice except to always remember to pray for your children. I pray over them each night. That they will accept Jesus into their heart and that their future spouse will know Jesus.



  61. Martha on Friday, May 23, 2014 at 10:01 pm

    This was so meaningful for me because my “boys” are 20 & 18 with birthdays coming up. I find it hard to let go of each passing year so they grow into adulthood and still want to “mother” them. I am going to remind myself that life is a continual season of change and God is the master of time. With his help and grace, I can still “mother” my young adults with the wisdom He gives me.
    Thank you Tracie!



  62. Gloria Hardee on Friday, May 23, 2014 at 11:20 pm

    As a mother of a 34 year old son, I have learned through my grandchildren how to slow down and smell the roses. When our son was growing up doing everyday life was a hurry up world. As a working mother there never seemed to be enough hours in the day. My only regret now is that I didn’t spend more time enjoying the simple things that children find amazing, such as watching a caterpillar crawl or trying to catch butterflies. As a grand parent, I see the wonder and amazement in my grand daughter’s eyes when she sees a butterfly. I now try catching butterflies,(without hurting them), with my grand daughter. She and I can sit for long periods of time and enjoy watching them flutter from flower to flower. Enjoying God’s beautiful world through a child’s eyes is something I wish I had done more often with my son.



  63. Donna Cason on Friday, May 23, 2014 at 11:35 pm

    Lately, I’ve tried to make a point to drop what I’m doing and spend a little time doing something they love – especially WITHOUT them asking me to. For my 5 year old, it’s coloring with her which is a tree at for her and therapy for me. It means the world to them, and reminds me of what is eternal and important – my kids – and what is only temporal – a clean house.



  64. Billie on Friday, May 23, 2014 at 11:36 pm

    Try to be in the moment when you are with your kids. You will notice a nice change in your child’s behavior and you will enjoy them so much more!



  65. Jaydnn on Friday, May 23, 2014 at 11:40 pm

    Before rising in the morning , thank God for the children and the stage of life they’re in. Be simply thankful for another day of life with them!!!!



  66. Chris Kraemer on Saturday, May 24, 2014 at 12:43 am

    Always remember to keep your relationship with Christ a priority. Because apart from Him you can do nothing. He will give you the strength, wisdom and patience you need in parenting. The years pass so quickly so enjoy every minute and be fully in the moment not just physically but also emotionally and spiritually. Also, don’t allow fear to hold you back from experiencing all that God has for you. Trust Him and live life to the fullest. Lastly, never forget that no one is perfect. We are all going to make mistakes. It is in our weakness that we will be made strong through Christ.



  67. Jada Smith on Saturday, May 24, 2014 at 3:18 am

    Pray for them, over them, and with them! Really BE present with them 🙂



  68. Jessica on Saturday, May 24, 2014 at 5:33 am

    What a great post! I’ve learned praying for your children is such a privilege especially on a bad day! Also it helps to be able to let loose, just meet your kids where they are at and try to enjoy every moment with them. If they aren’t taking their nap instead of getting angry just cuddle with them. Enjoy the small moments. Those sweet times help carry me through the difficult ones.



  69. Teresa on Saturday, May 24, 2014 at 7:57 am

    I do find it a privilege and an honor to be able to be called Mom. Parenting tips…hum, I think you have to ground yourself in the Word of God, start your Day with HIM – and then wing it — okay, no trust Him to lead and guide. What has worked for me is to give my children space to make mistakes but to be there for them when they mess up. You will notice I said When, because they will. However, I would rather they mess up and know they can come to me as they grow then to get out into the world and have no where to turn! So Be the Light for your children, Be so ensconced in His Love – that He is what they see!
    Philippians 4:13 ” I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.”
    John 16:33 ” ….In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world.”
    Blessings All
    Teresa



  70. Martha on Saturday, May 24, 2014 at 8:06 am

    As a mom of four, including a foster son and daughter who are 14 months old and three months old, I remind myself during the wakeful nights and busy days that “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.” He gave me these wonderful blessings and He will help me to be the mother He has purposed me to be:)



  71. Melissa Moore on Saturday, May 24, 2014 at 8:44 am

    Get up early and spend time with The Lord praying for them, praying for the day and your reactions to them. I have two sweet yet crazy boys and am currently prego with triplets! Wow! It’s becoming a challenge for me to keep up with them right now. I know that only The Lord can help me through this season and he can be your guidance too!



  72. Sheila Krygsheld on Saturday, May 24, 2014 at 8:56 am

    I purchased this small book called “Now You’re Talking” through Focus on the Family when my children were young. This book is filled with questions to use as conversation starters with your children. The questions are for various ages. I would ask a question and write down their answers. It’s become a treasured book as I reread those comments. With two in college, one in high school and my last one in grade school, I am so glad I took a little time to record their precious thoughts.



  73. Jessica long on Saturday, May 24, 2014 at 9:43 am

    Im a young mom with three children 4 and under. I’m still in that ‘first season’ where sometimes the days are exhausting and the nights are long. A quote that has been sticking with me lately: “The days are long, but the years are short.”
    I know there are many days that bedtime can’t come soon enough and all those requests for ‘one more drink, one more story” can really stretch me thin. I’m finding for me to have the patience, wisdom, and joy I need to raise and guide my babies each day I MUST start my day in the Word and prayer. When you ave three littles ones with lots of needs draining you each day then you need to be getting constantly filled up by HIM.

    One other thing that really helps me is turning on worship music or Christian radio while we go throughout our day. Nothing like singing and praising God to keep you in the right mindset.



  74. Jill on Saturday, May 24, 2014 at 11:07 am

    My husband writes encouragement on our girls mirror in special markers, and praise music helps me stay on track through the day.



  75. Cari Follett on Saturday, May 24, 2014 at 12:10 pm

    Get away at least once per year. It may sound crazy, but it’s important. My husband and I go on vacation just the two of us every year — sometimes it’s a long weekend, sometimes a week — but it’s a priority. My two now 20-something step-daughters didn’t like the idea when we first did it, but now tell their younger siblings, “Mom and Dad will be more patient, relaxed and fun after their vacation!” My husband and I reconnect in our marriage, allow ourselves some true relaxation and come back excited for some big hugs! The big girls learned that mom and dad need a break sometimes and that if you stay home with grandparents there’s the added bonus of getting spoiled!



  76. Stacy Johnson on Saturday, May 24, 2014 at 5:09 pm

    Play with your children everyday. It is difficult to put aside the housework/chores and bills and errands, etc. but definitely worth it. The time cannot be made up. I am a play therapist and have learned play is a child’s language. If you really want to get to know your child, you have to allow time to listen to them (and not usually their words). I try to set aside 15-20 minutes to play with my kids everyday. During that time, I don’t pick up the phone, turn on the TV, or let any other distractions take over. My focus is 100% on them and it pays off. They know that I care enough to forget everything else and honor my time with them.



  77. Nichole Roberts on Saturday, May 24, 2014 at 9:39 pm

    Pray for your children. It allows you to see them from God’s perspective. I have Stormie Omartian’s “Power of a Praying Parent.” It has really helped me appreciate my daughter as God’s child. I now see that she has a part to play in God’s plan and that she in not mine. I appreciate every moment with her knowing I must release her into God’s hands daily. I also know that it is my job to bring her up God’s way. I accept that she is not always going to like it but I have to “walk worth of my calling” no matter the situation. It often mean I must become more like Christ. It is a continual learning process God set up to transform me and all parents. Do your best to walk worthy of your calling!



  78. Dawn Fletcher on Saturday, May 24, 2014 at 10:28 pm

    When I start to grumble about my kids…ie. what a mess…I try to recount things I’m thankful for, and thank god for them…messes and all!



  79. KB on Sunday, May 25, 2014 at 1:23 am

    Count them a miracle and blessing, especially at the most taxing of moments.
    I am so blessed to have two beautiful children on this side of God’s creation and two arms full with our faithful Heavenly Father. I don’t have it all together all the time but I trust God fully and He reminds me in their eyes, their smiles and gentle touches how extremely blessed I am each day to have them in my life. We say (and demonstrate) “I LOVE YOU” (it’s amazing how those three words soften tense moments) and TOUCH often. I just examine their hands, toes, smiles, facial expressions – so that these memories are forever imprinted in my mind and heart when we are apart. Their phases don’t last for long and may slip by unknowingly. I count my blessings ~ for it’s a privilege and an honor to be called “MOM”.



  80. Jackie on Sunday, May 25, 2014 at 7:25 am

    I pray with my kids at the bus stop and ask them for their prayer requests each morning.



  81. Shelley on Sunday, May 25, 2014 at 8:19 am

    Contentment follows gratefulness. So being thankful to God for even the toughest seasons of childrearing is helpful in enjoying our precious blessings.



  82. Chelsea Duke on Sunday, May 25, 2014 at 10:20 am

    Take time for yourself. Somedays it might just be taking a bath without the kicks telling through the door, but taking even 10 minutes for yourself can help you get through a tough day. Also thank God for each and every moment with your kids. They are truly wonderful blessings.



  83. Erin on Monday, May 26, 2014 at 1:10 am

    This too shall pass



  84. Michelle on Monday, May 26, 2014 at 8:24 am

    I pray a lot! Try to focus on the true gift that my children are which helps to ground me.



  85. Lori on Monday, May 26, 2014 at 10:28 am

    I am a little late responding to this, as I was away with my precious family making one of our last high school memories together. We traveled to the Pennsylvainia State track and field championships to watch my son and his teammates compete in various events. This has been a recurring event for us over the years with both my son and daughter and one we will soon miss. I am at a real crossroads with my children this year as one recently graduated from college and the other is graduating high school in less than 2 weeks now. God has been good to this mama even in her weakest “runaway” moments. I have been blessed beyond measure with two amazing children! I have enjoyed each phase thus far and continue to look back on those gone by, as well. I was also fortunate enough to be a stay at home mom when my children were small then even more blessed to work for the local school district so that I could be home when they were. Whenever my children left the house (especially in the teen years), I always reminded them to use their “good Christian boy/girl judgment”. I think the fact that it was something THEY were accountable for, they rose to the challenge. On a funny note. . . when they were fight, (and yes, even my little darlings did), I would remind them that one day it would most likely come down to just the two of them and they really needed to stick together. 🙂 Thanks for sharing. Blessings to you and your family as you continue to grow as a family.



  86. Erica on Monday, May 26, 2014 at 11:42 am

    One realization we made a couple of years ago has really helped make all our lives more enjoyable: Our kids get along better when they each feel like they’re getting enough individual attention from us.



  87. Ginger on Monday, May 26, 2014 at 10:38 pm

    My best advice would be to start now and write down something fun or funny your child does each week. Or something cute or precious they say. Set a time to do it, so you won’t forget. Then when a tough day comes along, you can look back at the precious things and remember. It will get you past the frustration and reset your focus.



  88. Maggie Muschara on Tuesday, May 27, 2014 at 7:25 am

    We have a life verse for each of our children. We pray it over them and pray it with them!



  89. Leslie on Tuesday, May 27, 2014 at 12:00 pm

    I think the most important change I’ve made has been in my consistency that has changed my happiness in parenting. I found that I truly wasn’t consistent with my terrible 2 year old, so setting boundaries and enforcing them every time regardless of the setting has made a huge difference in his and my happiness in our relationship. It is so easy to get caught up in reproof and correction only when what your child is doing is an inconvenience to you, but when you go the extra step and offfer reproof and correction every time in a consistent fashion, they know what to expect from you and they feel safe.



  90. Heather on Tuesday, May 27, 2014 at 3:09 pm

    I have to say that I really enjoyed the comments I scrolled over and can’t wait to read each and every one of them. I am a mama of two precious miracles that I love so very much. Our son is 4 and our daughter is almost 11 months old! I am still in the young phase of my children and find myself constantly frustrated because, both myself and my husband work two jobs to make ends meet. My aunt lives with us and cares for my children. It breaks my heart that someone else I love is caring for them and it’s not me. Sometimes I feel God telling me “Heather, my dear child, this is only for a season.” We were traveling back and forth 100 miles every weekend for almost 3 months for position at a church as Children’s Pastors. That became too much as I was working 2 jobs and my husband was about to work 2 jobs. God revealed this scripture to us and it pierced our “mommy and daddy” hearts. 1 Timothy 5:8. We knew that we had to make a compromise because our son was acting out in a way we didn’t want him to. So, we had to stop what we were doing and take care of our children as God commanded us. So being obedient to the Lord when it get’s tough as a parent, is key for us everyday. Our children watch every move we make, so when I am setting an example or not, they notice. We try to mention making good/bad decisions and the reward/punishment for them. For a 4 year old, our son is grasping it. Constantly seek God’s guidance and you can do ANYTHING with your parenting. They were His before they were given to us to raise up!



  91. Lorie Kennedy on Tuesday, May 27, 2014 at 4:37 pm

    What works with one kid, may not work with the other.



  92. Kelly on Thursday, May 29, 2014 at 8:56 am

    As mom to 5 kids ages 11,9,7,3,10 months..everyday presents new challenges. But I think about the days to come when they won’t be here and I’m thankful for the “noise” of today.



  93. Karla on Monday, June 2, 2014 at 9:34 am

    Changing my mindset from “I have to…” to ” I am able to…” has made me change from being resentful or discouraged in the phase of parenthood that I’m in to being thankful. I am a homeschool mom of 3 young boys and it can be so difficult some days to never get a break from their energy and to have so much on my to do list. This change in my internal mindset helps me to see the “little joys” in life.



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