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Have you ever wondered if you even matter? Struggled with believing in yourself and believing you had value? I certainly have. When my husband left nearly three years ago, I struggled with paralyzing emotions tangled in rejection, betrayal, heartache and fear. My confidence kicked the bucket, and my joy went out with it. It took some time, but God gently walked me back into His Presence and helped me reclaim my identity in Him, as well as reinvent myself and my life. Today, i am so thankful to truly know who I am and feel confident in who God made me to be and the life He has given me to live, even though it’s not the life I always thought I would have.

Today in my Proverbs 31 devotion, When You Feel Like You Don’t Know Who You Are, I shared about how trying to fill out a simple form at the doctor’s office sent me into a tailspin, until God whispered sweet reassurance to my spirit. You can read the whole devotion here. 

We all struggle with a lack of self confidence at times and lose sight of our value in Christ and in this world.  Maybe it’s due to the way someone treated us, hurtful criticism, failures, flaws and imperfections. But it’s hard to love our life when we don’t first love ourselves. Below are some tips to keep in mind each day to help you start learning to love yourself and your life:

  1. Remember Whose you are.  Even if other people don’t see our value, God always does. If how you are thinking about yourself is not something God would say about you, rephrase your thinking. Be as kind to yourself as you would to someone else.
  2. Our worth is not defined by a title we hold or a role we have. Life consistently changes, and roles and titles change, but our worth does not.
  3. Make a list of all the wonderful things about you. Brag on yourself. Each time you start feeling discouraged or lacking value, pull that list out as a reminder of  how God has knit you together in such a special way. Continue adding to the list as you think of new things.

Every little step counts, and there’s lot more tips in my new book!

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21 Comments

  1. Holly on Tuesday, July 17, 2018 at 7:40 am

    Tracie, your story resonates with me on such a profound level, I can’t believe it! Exact same situation with divorce after 25 yrs, exact same feelings and same hard walk for 3 years of finding “me”, although Gods grace has kept me going. Thank you for your frankness, your story has touched me and helped me feel less “alone “.



    • Tracie on Tuesday, July 17, 2018 at 2:46 pm

      Im so glad this helped you today Holly! 🙂



  2. aracelis Williams on Tuesday, July 17, 2018 at 8:19 am

    This couldn’t have come at a better time as I am about to lose my SAHM status since my son will be going off to college in a few short weeks . I feel old , unwanted , and worthless as I have looked for work and rejected time after time . Even with a Masters degree , experience , albeit 18 years old , and tons of volunteer work , i haven’t been able to find anything ! I feel God has swept me aside and allowed only his promises to be for others . I need a fresh start and perspective !



  3. Cyndi Woods Cyndi on Tuesday, July 17, 2018 at 8:24 am

    Hi Tracie, I haven’t experianced divorce or betrayal such as you have. However I can feel your strength as well as your vulnerability. I draw from your words and admire how you are rediscovering your identity in Jesus. Thank you for being willing to be His teaching moment for yourself and others. Blessings.



  4. Karen on Tuesday, July 17, 2018 at 8:44 am

    You are a great encourager!
    THANK YOU



  5. Dot on Tuesday, July 17, 2018 at 9:36 am

    Tracie, thank you for sharing what you did from your heart. When my husband left me, I think I was just in shock more than anything. When my second husband died of cancer, that hit so hard. Who am I? What am I? Do i even matter? Your thoughts that you shared resonated with me. Praying that others will see that they too are not alone in this journey. The LORD has each and every one of us called to HImself, as His daughter, a daughter of the King.



  6. Michelle on Tuesday, July 17, 2018 at 9:41 am

    Thank you for your story. It is so encouraging to me to know that there are others in my same situation. Thank you for being open and vulnerable.



  7. Michelle Rahner on Tuesday, July 17, 2018 at 10:48 am

    Thank you for your words of encouragement. My husband also left me and our children two years ago. We we’re together for 25 years, married for 18. It’s really hard, I’m learning who I am in Christ and leaning on Him daily.
    God bless you.



  8. Ramelle Collins on Tuesday, July 17, 2018 at 11:25 am

    I divorced my loving, faithful, loyal husband of 37 years because l alliw sin to overtake my life. It has been 9 years since l held the title of Mrs. and while l know God has forgiven me, l still struggle to forgive myself. God still loves me unconditionally and still has a plan and His work for me to do this side of heaven and l have to cling tightly to His unbroken promises of forgiveness and grace.



  9. Diane Griffin on Tuesday, July 17, 2018 at 11:44 am

    Tracie my family is going through a brutal situation, my granddaughter who is 27 years old just lost her husband this Mother’s Day, May 13 as a result of PTSD having issues after returning from Afghanistan it simply would not go away. He left a young wife, 3 years old son and 10 month baby and tons of financial issues. The baby has been sick several times and no one to help. The mom is a cosmetologist and works every day and since this happened the children are in a childcare and Mom has to drive 60 miles a day to work and take the children. So far life has not gotten better. There could be no better father or husband than this guy. I am having issues why God let this happen to such a fine family and it still is not better. I am a Christian but doubts are creating in. Why, why why? Please pray especially for my Granddaughter and our entire family.



    • Shelley on Tuesday, July 17, 2018 at 9:49 pm

      Diane, the pain you and your family are experiencing is clear and so sad. My heart goes out to you. I think living in this world at times like this is so confusing and excruciating. I know your feelings as I have been through them also. My faith waivered and I did feel that God had separated himself from me. Time helped heal me and I learned that God was there but in my pain I could hear, see or feel his presence. I will pray for you and your sweet family.



  10. Kathy on Tuesday, July 17, 2018 at 12:21 pm

    You gave me hope and encouragement as I read your story of how the Lord brought you into a season of peace and joy after your husband left you. I’m going through a time where I need to follow God’s leading and it’s causing discord in my marriage. Thank you for sharing how the Lord can restore your confidence and give you the strength to resist the enemy and rebuild a stronger faith and reliance on the Lord.



  11. Kassandra on Tuesday, July 17, 2018 at 1:36 pm

    Hi tracie, im so glad you have come to a place of certainty in whose you are. I know im trying to find that but im curious if you would mind answering a question. I loved your devo in prov31 but im wondering, i give so much into my role of wife and mom and those roles feel like they do tell me who i am. And from you said its not our roles or titles, so would you saying being a mom/wife/whatever is part of our identity or just something we do? Because i totally get what you said about our identity being from God alone but we do so much in our other roles, so how does that work?



  12. Kassandra on Tuesday, July 17, 2018 at 1:40 pm

    Hi tracie, im so glad you have come to a place of certainty in whose you are. I know im trying to find that but im curious if you would mind answering a question. I loved your devo in prov31 but im wondering, i give so much into my role of wife and mom and those roles feel like they do tell me who i am. And from what you said its not our roles or titles, so would you say being a mom/wife/whatever is just part of our identity or just something we do because its not the whole definition of who we are? Because i totally get what you said about our identity being from God alone but we do so much in our other roles, so how does that work?



  13. Robin on Tuesday, July 17, 2018 at 2:38 pm

    I definitely need to get this book. My husband, after 25 years together and 23 years married also decided to give up on our marriage.
    I know God has a plan for all of this but I am lost, heartbroken, and struggling to find the air to breathe most days. The thought of feeling like this for 3 years is overwhelming to me. I hate this pain and I hate how much it has shaken me to the core and left me questioning everything about myself.



    • Tracie on Tuesday, July 17, 2018 at 2:51 pm

      Robin – Im so sorry for what you’re going through. But please know you won’t always feel that way. God is faithful and He will help you restore your joy. Each day will be a little better. Believe in Him, believe in yourself and trust that He has better days are ahead. hugs.



  14. Carol Hicks on Tuesday, July 17, 2018 at 8:16 pm

    This brings so many thoughts I’ve been feeling to such realization. You can have this feeling without losing a loved one to divorce or death. I have raised my girls on my own as my husband had past. But it wasn’t the death of my husband that made me feel this way. My beautiful women of God found also their true man from God. They have all graduated college with great careers and have started families. While all these things are great, I’ve spent so many years making sure to always be their provider, their mother, their friend, their cheering team. When they don’t need that anymore 100% it has left me with a lot of time. Time I so longed for as they were growing because I didn’t have any. Now I have all the time in the world and forgot what else made me happy before them. So having time and not feeling needed has left me feeling with no purpose anymore. Bless you for this book, I can’t wait to find myself again.



  15. Gail on Tuesday, July 17, 2018 at 9:24 pm

    Tracie, you are helping so many women with your words! God Bless You! I felt the same when I had to fill out a change insurance form and the form asked if I was married, divorced or single. I had just lost my husband to cancer 2 weeks before. I sat there for a couple of HOURS before I could finally check the “single” box. It broke my heart. I feel empty inside since I lost the love of my life.
    Thank you for helping others go through their heartaches by your words and your experiences.



  16. Nydia on Tuesday, July 17, 2018 at 10:54 pm

    I am remembering whose I am. My worth is not defined by a title I hold or a role I have. I matter. Thank you Tracie for your encourage. Your a wonderful woman of God.



  17. B on Wednesday, July 25, 2018 at 4:49 am

    I’ve been married a lot years I married ONE GAVE HEART too be forever fell in love got married 18 .struggling know truth and not trusting anyone I was on ventilator Oct 2013 because of neighbor, Im know I’m not pretty hurt inside when love husband so much want him love you



  18. Jackie on Wednesday, September 5, 2018 at 2:34 am

    Do I matter?? I don’t think so or I would not have gone from being disabled and have every wierd disease known to man including recurrent cancer and God does nothing!!! I have prayed, praised, wittnessed to others given tithes, offerings and everything I have after all bills paid. I have been left livint at home at age 51yrs with my 83yrs old father and when he dies I will be homeless. I continue to believe there is a God but I don’t think or feel I matter. When does all this end?? He says is his word I am healed, wealthy, family is saved etc but nothing ever changes. Do I matter??? NO I don’t believe that I do I GOD’S EYES, HEART!!! He wasted his sons death on me as I don’t matter as all Gods promises in His Word are NO to me. SO NO I Don’t Matter!!!



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