How I Dealt With My Top Three Fears & Two Special Giveaways!

Today we are going to take a short break from the Summer Survival Series and talk about overcoming our fears, as discussed in my Proverbs 31 devotion today. If you are not signed up for the summer series yet, subscribe to my blog and get involved! Each week will offer great posts about managing the stress of summer and a fun weekly summer giveaway.

The Summer Survival Series Week 3 topic is Managing Summer Work Stress, with a focus on putting aside the guilty feelings of going on vacation, how to handle covering for co-workers without getting overwhelmed, and learning to relax while juggling work and summer obligations.  You can also visit the Stressed Less Living Facebook page for a breakdown of what each week will offer.

In today’s P31 devotion, I highlighted Psalm 46 and the importance of pausing when we feel afraid, and breathing in God’s comfort in the face of our every day fears, from small nagging anxieties to overwhelming, paralyzing fear. In any case, we all have to choose how we deal with these fears, and whether or not we let them control our lives.

When considering this concept of being afraid, I began to jot down a list of all the things that I am afraid of the most. A lot of fears came to mind, but after narrowing my list down to the top three, I noticed something I had never considered before – I had no control over any of these fears.

My top three fears, in no particular order, were:

1. Spiders

I have always had an overwhelming, weak-in-the-knees fear of spiders. In my minds eye, even the tiniest spider is, in essence, a tarantula. I am confident that every spider within 1o feet of me is going to violently lunge in my direction at any moment. But the reality is that fearing them is not going to make them become extinct.  Most spiders will not hurt me, and the likelihood of getting fatally bitten is extremely low.

2. My children’s safety:

For almost twenty years, I have worried about the safety of my kids, as all moms do.  But when they were smaller, I was so fearful that something would happen to them, I would actually have mental visions of them being hurt or harmed, which only fueled my fears more. All the what-if’s and worry made me contemplate holding them hostage in our home  just to keep them safe.  But I eventually learned to accept that God loves my children more than I do. Only He holds their futures in His hands, and He has plans to prosper them, and give them a future and a hope. I have learned over the years to worry less, and pray more; trusting that God is surrounding them with a hedge of protection everywhere they go, especially since I can’t keep them home and safe in my arms forever.

3. Heights

Except for flying on an airplane, if you put put me in a situation where I can see how far away the ground is, I feel nauseous.  Think roller coasters, high balconies, para sailing, glass elevators, rope bridges. In fact, while visiting the St. Louis, MO arch several years ago, I practically crawled on my stomach when I got to the top because I was sure the wind was going to blow the entire structure to the ground. Sad, but true. But plunging to my death from any structure is highly unlikely. Whether I’m on the ground, or twenty stories up, I can only trust that God will protect me and that He knows the numbers of days I have here on earth.

 

As I considered my lack of power to control the things I feel afraid of, and all the other things on my list that sometimes cause me anxiety, I realized that I was at a turning point in my faith. I needed to acknowledge that only God has the power to make things happen, prevent things from happening, and control the present and the future. I knew I needed to begin trusting Him more with not only these three small fears, but all the other important fears that I had written on my list, involving parenting, marriage, finances, relationships and health.

Deuteronomy 31:6 says “So be strong and courageous! Do not be afraid and do not panic before them. For the Lord your God will personally go ahead of you. He will neither fail you nor abandon you.”  In the face of any fear, God promises to go before us, and knowing that allows us to be strong in the face of our fears.

Although our fears may be warranted through our human perceptions, living in a perpetual state of fear is a stumbling block in our faith and prevents us from trusting God completely.  It’s also a waste of time and effort,  resulting in stress and frustration, since only God has the power to control all things, big , little, and eight legged.

Today I am giving away two items to two randomly selected winners. A signed copy of Stressed-Less Living, since fear is something that can escalate our stress.  And a Journal set, since recording our thoughts and prayers often helps us feel God’s comfort and peace. 

To enter to win, leave a comment stating what your biggest fear is, and commit to turning this fear over to God from this day forward. 

Winners announced on Friday, July 19th! 

175 Comments

  1. Vanessa on Monday, July 15, 2013 at 7:45 am

    My biggest fear…. Doing things on my own. Alone, bymyself. I’m afraid that I can’t take care of myself or handle myself well in stressful or fearful situations. The fear of not being okay has paralyzed me in the past and the reminders of that are still there. I have had an illness that really messed with my hormones and endocrine system. I have been doing more things on my own and it feels strange but I have been doing them. I know God is with me and He has not abandon me. It’s really just a self doubt from the enemy. I in myself cannot but God can. God can help me overcome, God can help me stay calm, God can help me take the steps, God can help me every step of the way, big steps, baby steps…..



  2. Debbie Hollingsworth on Monday, July 15, 2013 at 7:53 am

    My biggest fear is heights. I get weak in the knees looking over a balcony, etc. I know that sometimes I will miss out on life when I let this fear overtake me. Flying on an airplane is no longer a threat to me, but while my daughter and I were on a weekend away there was an opportunity to fly in a helicopter. THAT is a whole different situation than a plane to me because there is so much more visual opportunity of what’s surrounding us and below us. I didn’t want her to miss the chance to fly because I was afraid, so I prayerfully boarded the helicopter. My 21 year old daughter held my hand (bless her heart) the whole trip and with Laura and God I was able to actually enjoy (somewhat) the ride. I was proud of myself for conquering the helicopter ride and thankful to a God who wants us to “enjoy the ride” without fear.



  3. Terri Williams on Monday, July 15, 2013 at 8:00 am

    One of my biggest fears was cancer… and I was diagnosed with non-Hodgkin lymphoma this year. God has been with us every step of the way and has brought so many good things from it. Psalm 46 (as well as the whole book of Psalms) has been a huge encouragement to me. God’s peace is amazing!



  4. MarthaB on Monday, July 15, 2013 at 8:11 am

    I fear for the future of my children. One has autism, one does not.



  5. Lisa on Monday, July 15, 2013 at 8:12 am

    My biggest fear is failing – as a mother, wife, child of God, friend, daughter, sister. However, God has been faithful to remind me just to surrender and let Him have all these areas.



  6. Sheila on Monday, July 15, 2013 at 8:24 am

    My biggest fears have been around a health issue that I have been dealing with for the past few years. The enemy has told me a lot of lies during this time and used fear as a fastener. But greater is he that is in me than he who is in the world. This time has been transformational for me and my faith. As I have clung to god’s word and then began to study his word more deeply, I have come to know him like never before. Now that I know him better, trusting him is easier. And when I can trust him, his character, his promises, his sovereignty, then whom/what shall I fear.
    Praise be to God!



  7. Diane on Monday, July 15, 2013 at 8:26 am

    One of my biggest fears is the future- what will happen. My husband has been without a full-time job for three years. I have been trusting that our Lord would take care of us- and He has done that. But it is so hard to not worry. Psalm 46 has been a chapter that has given me much comfort.



  8. Tammy on Monday, July 15, 2013 at 8:29 am

    I fear spiders and mice and while I know they won’t hurt me I still prefer to keep them at arms length. I love Psalm 46 it always brings comfort



  9. Yolisa proctor on Monday, July 15, 2013 at 8:30 am

    I still continue to thank the Lord for protecting me all the time, I had stroke and my fear is falling down, every time I go out my mind is filled with the fear of falling down, what if there is no one around to help me up, what if I heat something with my head and I experience another stroke all this makes me to spent most of the day sitting, thank you for your lovely teaching .



  10. Sharon Parcel on Monday, July 15, 2013 at 8:30 am

    My biggest fear is for my grandchildren and what the future will hold for them. Fortunately they are being raised in Christian homes and I pray they will stay strong in His word. Thank you for this timely message! Peace and grace…



  11. lMichelle Hallock on Monday, July 15, 2013 at 8:32 am

    I have recently had an experience that has caused me to have great anxiety over what people think of me, and a fear of not being excepted as the professional I am suppose to be.
    I know that God is my defender and His opinion of me is the only thing that matters, but the anxiousness has become very overwhelming.



  12. Noelani on Monday, July 15, 2013 at 8:44 am

    My ultimate fear is not receiving love in return by the actions and words from those I truly love and give my complete self too! I have yearned for this love for as long as I can remember. This past week was another eye opener for me as I wrestled in my mind the tension that surrounded me by those I loved. I come from a broken home at 5 years old, who’s biological mother abandoned her and her siblings when she was 8 years old and a biological father who was the black sheep of his family and not shown real love from his father. But, in the midst of my chaotic life God has had a firm grip on my life, my soul because I have a purpose and a plan to further His Kingdom. I have been saved by His grace for 17 years and only now have I seen how He is faithful (Ps 37) in all that I do through all my accomplishments as well as my failures. He continues to guide me down the straight path as I trust in Him (Pr 3:5-6). Mahalo ke Akua!



  13. Lana on Monday, July 15, 2013 at 8:44 am

    My greatest fear is my ex-husband taking my children.



  14. Jessica on Monday, July 15, 2013 at 8:55 am

    My biggest fear is that I will not live here on earth long enough to complete my children’s homeschooling journeys thru High school. My best friend passed away rather unexpectedly last July and now her children, who have never gone to school, must attend traditional school. I sleep with a phone and aspirin by my bed each night feeling that I will be able to stop a health event if one occurs. Completely unrealistic I know. So, I will now pass this fear up to God and ask Him to take the the fear away. I will also ask Him to forgive me for the need to try to control the situation and KNOW HE is in control and will take care of me. Thanks for listening. I have never admitted this on a public forum.



  15. Amy Salmons on Monday, July 15, 2013 at 9:00 am

    My biggest fear is flying so your devotion today really hit home for me. I need to fly next week so I am saving your devotion and will read it again as I’m waiting for the plane to take off. I also have fears over my children, if I am a good mother and wife, if I am fulfilling God’s purpose for my life. But, I’m continually praying for peace of mind. Thank you for sharing.



  16. Christi on Monday, July 15, 2013 at 9:03 am

    My greatest fear is not being able to take care of myself and my son — in the sense of supporting us financially. I’ve been without a job since March 2012, and so far have made it. Now I’ve reached the point that I don’t have any money left to live on, and I don’t have any job prospects. My stress is starting to manifest physically, and that exacerbates things even more. I’ve been working on turning things over to God in the past week or so. The timing of this blog post is perfect for me. Thanks for sharing your fears and how you handle them. It’s good to be reminded God is with us at all times.



  17. Janet Schmidt on Monday, July 15, 2013 at 9:07 am

    I really needed this devo. Ive been struggling with fear for my children’s future. since end times are upon us. What is the world going to be like for them and their children as ” the hearts of most will grow cold.” I have been working on Gods truths sinking deep in to my heart to calm my anxiety. Can’t wait to read this book.



  18. rachel on Monday, July 15, 2013 at 9:14 am

    My greatest fear right now is that I am afraid to exercise. I have had heart palpitations and have felt faint in the past when I used to exercise but at the same time i was under allot of stress so now that i am not stressed liked i used to be I am afraid to exercise. I know this sounds silly but its the truth!! Today I am supposed to start exercising and commit to it with my Fit House Ladies. Please pray that I start it today and not chicken out because of fear of dying while exercising.



  19. Cindy on Monday, July 15, 2013 at 9:15 am

    As I read the other comments, I realize I am not alone. I have struggled with panic attacks for years now & take medication which allows me to feel & be ‘normal’. My greatest fears are the safety of my children & family, and that I will be ‘alright’ in mind. I know God is in control & will provide! I would love to win a copy of your book! Thank you for your post!



    • Mary Tallman on Monday, July 15, 2013 at 9:27 pm

      I also have the panic attack life. I have been on meds for quite a few years and one day i just got tired of being a slave to them and i had a talk with my pastors wife and her mother and asked God to help me with them. I am currently
      reducing my doses and soon will be off them. I still have the fear of them returning in full swing but I know He will help me……and you too. I know where you’re coming from. I will pray for you.



  20. Louise Walker on Monday, July 15, 2013 at 9:16 am

    My biggest fear, despite what I know God says to be true, is to totally fail my kids; financially, educationally (homeschoolers), emotionally and spiritually. I feel so close to it far too often.



    • Sarah on Monday, July 15, 2013 at 11:49 am

      Ditto for me, Louise. I have the exact same fears. I’m sure you take no delight knowing a fellow sister struggles like you do, but be encouraged that you aren’t the only one. I’m praying for you 🙂



  21. Elaine Segstro on Monday, July 15, 2013 at 9:19 am

    My biggest fear, on vacation, is while we are driving to or from our destination. My husband and I love to kayak and canoe, so we have a canoe and kayaks strapped onto the roof of our vehicle. Yesterday while coming home from one of our summer getaways, the van would “rock back and forth” while we drove since there was a bit of wind. My husband was passing transport trucks and we “rocked” even more. I didn’t just close my eyes; I squeezed them shut! While doing this, I was praying for safety.



  22. Jessica Sutherland on Monday, July 15, 2013 at 9:21 am

    My biggest fear is something happening to me so that I am not able to raise my children.



  23. Evalyn Elliott on Monday, July 15, 2013 at 9:21 am

    My biggest fear is my marriage ending. My husband moved out 9 months ago. I pray daily for wisdom on what God would have me to do. Right now I am unemployed as well, making me even more fearful. But God is faithful. I pray each morning to leave these fears at the foot of the Cross.



  24. Kristy on Monday, July 15, 2013 at 9:22 am

    My biggest fear is when I have children and they grow up that they will have a drug or alcohol addiction. It runs rampant on both sides of my and my husband’s family. I am committing to turning this fear of the unknown over to God!



  25. Amber M on Monday, July 15, 2013 at 9:22 am

    thank you so much for these words today and on Proverbs31, it was just what I was needing this morning and I know will bless me all day long!



  26. Courtney on Monday, July 15, 2013 at 9:23 am

    My biggest fear is failure. There are times where I want to try something new, but allow my fear to stop me. Anything from trying to make arts and crafts to going back to obtain my masters degree, I talk myself out of it with “what ifs”. I pray God will deliver my mind and heart from this area of low self esteem and make me a courageous woman.



  27. Kathi W on Monday, July 15, 2013 at 9:25 am

    About two years ago my husband and I were leaving for work and it was still dark out. He fed our dogs but the dogs wouldn’t come near the food so my husband went down the steps to see why and there was a 6′ copperhead snake under our steps. I quickly shut the door (yes, leaving my husband outside with the snake!) and went to get him something to kill it with. Even today after that I look under the steps when I go up or come down them to make sure there is no snake around. I know God protected us that day using our dogs to alert us to danger and I know He is faithful and will continue to protect us.

    My grandchildren (my youngest sons boys) being taken away from their parents because neither one (mother or father) acts like they want the children which is really sad because they are such a joy to us. The boys love to go to church and love to listen to Christian music and sing along with “God’s not dead, He’s alive!” I worry about them all the time and want to take things in to my own hands.

    Speaking in front of people, it doesn’t matter how many it could be 5 or 500. I know this is something I’ve got to overcome because I’ve got to tell my testimony to others. Pray that God would give me the strength to turn all of these things over to God starting today and stand on His word that I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me!!

    Thank you and God bless!!



  28. Helen on Monday, July 15, 2013 at 9:25 am

    WOW!! I really needed this devotional today. I so enjoy the Proverbs 31 devotions. I am a walking stress bomb. You name it and I worry about it. I pray about my fears but have trouble letting God handle them – you know he has everyone elses problems to deal with too. I related with your fear about your children. Mine are now 19 and 23 but I still worry as if they were toddlers. My husband also has health problems and I worry what would I do without him in my life – how would I survive – how would the bills get paid. I’m really interested in your book and need to focus more on letting go and letting God. I’ve printed out the verses from Psalms you referenced today and stuck them on my computer monitor to remind me He will neither fail me nor abandon me. Thanks for sharing your fears!



  29. Suzanne on Monday, July 15, 2013 at 9:26 am

    My biggest fear is my children’s safety!! My son just completed his first year of college and that was a huge step for me – letting go and not knowing every moment where he was and what he was doing!! And my daughter just turned 13 — and all of the worldly whatifs for a girl!!! Oh wow!! I know that they are a gift from God and he has them in his hands — I just have to continue to remind myself that and continue to pray for their safety. Thanks for your works of encouragement in faith!!



  30. Kenda Haines on Monday, July 15, 2013 at 9:28 am

    My biggest fear is being abandoned….by my husband, by my friends, by my family. I daily choose to put my trust in God that he will not abandon me. I cling to my favorite scripture to remind myself that he promises to never leave me.



  31. Ellen on Monday, July 15, 2013 at 9:29 am

    I’ve done a great deal of soul searching in recent years and fear of failure is at the root of many of my decisions. And it’s not just complete failure, but even failure to “do it right” (aka perfectinism). Over my lifetime, I have absolutely failed to try many things because I might fail and disappoint my parents or my husband or….myself.

    This is something I’m really working on. With God’s help, I know I can succeed.



  32. Sarah M. on Monday, July 15, 2013 at 9:33 am

    My biggest fears have to do with my children. #1-that something bad will happen to my girls #2-that something bad will happen to me and leave my girls without a mom. I know that these things are not in my control and that God will take care of us, but sometimes these fears cause me to feel panicky. I immediately start remembering all of the passages in the Bible that tell me not to worry, but it’s so hard to get these fears out of my mind!



  33. Careen on Monday, July 15, 2013 at 9:33 am

    My biggest fear is in my parenting flaws. While perfection is not reality I feel fearful and guilty about how my inequities will affect my children. I cling to the verse that says if any of us lacks wisdom let us call upon Him who knows all and gives abundantly



  34. Dawn on Monday, July 15, 2013 at 9:33 am

    My biggest fear is thinking I am saved and I am not :'(



  35. RoseMary Baty-Willcox on Monday, July 15, 2013 at 9:34 am

    My greatest fears are My children not loving me and Snakes. I have learned to cope with many of my fears by just turning them over to God, as you said to do. My mom use to tell me I would worry myself sick over things, i cannot control. So turn them over to God so he can deal with them.



  36. Heather on Monday, July 15, 2013 at 9:34 am

    Fear, the unknown, things out of my control are all areas I struggle with . I know better, know God is there with me and has things under control. Yet, I find it difficult to believe and live like it. Your devotion and blog have both been a good reminder today of God’s control in my life and how I need to surrender to that! Thank-you



  37. Lynn on Monday, July 15, 2013 at 9:35 am

    My biggest fear is fear of the future….fear of not being able to take care of myself, fear of not being financially stable, fear of not being healthy….etc. My favorite Psalm is helping me to relax is Psalm 91.
    Thank you! God Bless you and yours!



  38. Erica on Monday, July 15, 2013 at 9:37 am

    What a wonderful devotion today! Something we can all relate to. It’s hard to pick one fear as I feel I struggle with many. So many fears mentioned above hit close to home so thanks to everyone for sharing. I will say that fear of failure is my number one fear currently – failure as wife, mom, daughter, sister, friend, and in my job.



  39. Christine Kintu Mulimira on Monday, July 15, 2013 at 9:39 am

    This is sad but true – time and time again my husband assures me that mice, yes, mice also fear people: that when they encounter a human being, they quickly run away. We have been free from mice for over two years. However, with the change of weather and all, they somehow make their way into our house every once in a while. Times like these are horrible for us and the hunt is on until ALL of them are dead and gone. Personally, I can’t stand mice – dead or alive! They give me the creeps. My three daughters and I will literally climb ANYTHING just to get our feet off the ground when a little mouse is spotted. There was one in our house a few days ago, and we placed rat poison in all the rooms to ensure that it is dealt with. Last night, I went to the bathroom and for some reason, did not switch on the light. As I got up from the seat to flash the toilet, I thought I felt something strange under my foot. Not wanting to upset myself, I moved out of the bathroom quickly and went back to bed. That was 2 a.m. My imagination got the better of me and I stayed awake, tossing and turning in my bed, wondering what I could have stepped on! After a painful three hours of sleeplessness, I chose to get out of bed at 5 a.m. and went straight for the bathroom just to settle my mind and curiosity. As fate would have it, when I turned on the light, my eyes went straight to the place where my foot had stood. There was a dead mouse at the very spot. The horror of knowing that I had stepped on it got me rubbing my feet on the door mat for several minutes. This MUST stop. Thank you for your article. I am resolved to trust the Lord to take care of ALL my fears.



  40. Tabetha on Monday, July 15, 2013 at 9:43 am

    My biggest fear is of sharks. I know it sounds silly because I live in the middle of Illinois. However my fear is so strong that when I read your blog and you mentioned digging yout toes in the sand I cringed. I can’t watch cartoons like Nemo without feeling the panic in my chest. It is totally irrational. It has kept me from going on vacations and participating in triathlons that I would love to do. Just a picture or child’s toy can bring me to my knees. God and I are working on this. I keep forcing myself into situations to face the fear. All Imhave to say is boy am Imglad God goes before me, and beside me, and behind me.



  41. Sandy on Monday, July 15, 2013 at 9:44 am

    Thank you for this devotional Tracie. My biggest fear is public speaking…to the point where I (an honor roll student) took F’s in high school rather than recite a poem or talk in front of the class and never completed the public speaking requirement in college. I would love to be in plays or talk openly to others about Christ, but I can’t seem to overcome this fear. What’s odd is it came on suddenly in high school. Prior to that, I did perform in plays, participated in public debates, loved to read out loud when called upon to do so, etc. Another odd thing is that until this moment, I’ve never thought to pray about it so thanks for the encouraging verses and the devotion on how you overcame your fears. “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me” is a favorite verse that I am going to apply to helping me overcome.

    Feel led to say this to sweet Michelle and Noelani even though they may not come back and read other’s comments. God has chosen you, cherishes you and loves you so no matter what others think or how others may fail you, know that He will never fail you and His love is true. You are his adopted child and He is your Heavenly Father.



  42. Melanie on Monday, July 15, 2013 at 9:45 am

    I have fears of failing as a mother, wife, employee, friend, in about every role that might impact others.



  43. Jeri Steele on Monday, July 15, 2013 at 9:48 am

    My biggest fear is of letting my family down, of not being the spiritual mentor that they need me to be. a close second is the fear of losing my job- being laid off. My favorite verse is Proverbs 3: 5-6.



  44. Sherry on Monday, July 15, 2013 at 9:49 am

    My greatest fear is similar to yours, Tracie, concerning children. From the birth of my first daughter, my heart was so full of joy, but, I feared that God would take her away. When my second daughter was born, I experienced the same fear. Before she was two years old, their father and I divorced. My children were not taken away through some awful disease or tragic death, but my time with them was cut in half – shared custody. I have since remarried and they resent my husband due to his behavior toward them and it has worsened over the last eight years of marriage and two additions to the family – their half-siblings. So now, my fear is, as my oldest approaches 18 this year, she will leave the house and not come back. I expect the same with the second daughter. My greatest desire has always been a close, loving family that loves and worships our great God. Not even close. I bring this to God EVERY day. I pray for God to make my family a God-family, doing in and through each of us that which only God can do. I must trust and expect that He will.



  45. Kathie on Monday, July 15, 2013 at 9:49 am

    My biggest fear is getting sick and not being here for my kids. My oldest lost his father a little over a year ago and my youngest has Down Syndrome and he relies on me daily.



  46. Kelly on Monday, July 15, 2013 at 9:53 am

    I have a fear of snakes & mice. The people I work with know this too. Last winter we killed a lot of mice in the office & everytime one was caught, I would never take them out. Sometimes the guys would threathen to leave it on my desk. I told them I would probably turn around & go home for the day. There was never one on my desk, so they knew it was a true fear. With God’s help, I have known that they are just as afraid of me & as I am of them, so no need to be too afraid to case human pain.



  47. Nicole on Monday, July 15, 2013 at 9:54 am

    What a wonderful devotion & beautiful reminder today… My biggest fear is disappointing others or letting someone down – friend, stranger, & sometimes even foe. I fear the opinion of others & often go above & beyond to make others happy (or what I think will make them happy). This behavior often leads to me putting my own, or even worse, my familiy’s feelings aside to appease those not so close. My husband is constantly reminding me that I need to do what is right with God – stand up for myself, say no to commitments, worry only about HIM & his opinion of me. Thank you for the verse in Deuteronomy today. What a well (& constantly) needed reminder that God is always with me, walking ahead of me & that I have NOTHING to fear!



  48. Emily on Monday, July 15, 2013 at 9:56 am

    My biggest fear is something terrible happening to my kids. I need to put my trust in The Lord and know he will protect them.



  49. Helen on Monday, July 15, 2013 at 9:57 am

    My biggest fear is that a health issue I have will flair up when I am away from home.



  50. Tracy on Monday, July 15, 2013 at 9:59 am

    I know this may sound kind of trivial but my biggest fear is snakes. I don’t even like to look at them at the zoo, knowing that they cannot get throught he glass. If I look at them it is still at a distance. If I come across a show that has snakes in it, I will not watch it, I turn the tv as fast as I can. I know God is in control and He is always working for my good.



  51. Holly S on Monday, July 15, 2013 at 9:59 am

    My biggest fear is that I’m not living in the purpose that God has for me, that He’s disappointed in me and that I won’t hear Him say “well done, good and faithful servant.”



  52. Katheryn Darbonne on Monday, July 15, 2013 at 10:00 am

    Handling finances.



  53. Susan S on Monday, July 15, 2013 at 10:05 am

    My biggest fear is that something horrible will happen to my children. I’ve actually had panic attacks in the past when I’m not with them because of that fear. I am actually getting better by relying on God and by rationalizing the odds that whatever I’m afraid of will actually happen to my children.



  54. Sylvia MacVettie on Monday, July 15, 2013 at 10:06 am

    Since I live alone my biggest fear is falling, getting hurt, or having a medical problem and no one finding me in time to help me. I am very healthy and careful so I don,t know why I worry so much but I do.



  55. Karolina on Monday, July 15, 2013 at 10:14 am

    my biggest fear in the last few mths was safety at home since for the time being i have to live alone (and over the same period of time there were a number of break-ins in the area). I’ve been trying to surrender it to God but at times a ‘wave of fear’ comes over my mind and imagination with a new strength. I would love to forget about it and move on 🙂



  56. Terri on Monday, July 15, 2013 at 10:18 am

    Like a couple of the readers above my biggest fear is of the future; the unknown~~ will my dreams coorelate with God’s plans for my life. As my husband and I reach retirement we have made some plans. I find it difficult to let go of our future and truly surrender ALL to God, even though I know He is in control and has our life planned out. I need to cling to the truth that He will fulfill our dreams as long as we love, trust and obey Him!!!



  57. MissyB on Monday, July 15, 2013 at 10:19 am

    My greatest fear has always been about coming down with a sickness. I even remember when I was younger if I got a headache I thought it was a brain tumor -I know it sounds funny now but I still do it sometimes especially now that I am older and have more aches. I am doing better with letting the thoughts take full control of my mind and get me sick to my stomach from fear and anxiety. I have had 6 ulcers in my stomach at one time and the doctor told me the cause was probably from stress. It is also hard too because both of my parents have had cancer so that puts a big fear in me as well. One of the Bible verses I use is Matthew 6:27 when it talks about worry and it says who can add a single day to your life by worrying. Just reminding myself that God is in control of my life and He has my days numbered and no worrying can add anything good to my life or change it -other than give me more ulcers – no thanks. Thank you for your devotional today.



  58. Lori A. on Monday, July 15, 2013 at 10:20 am

    My biggest fear is the unknown.



  59. Jennie on Monday, July 15, 2013 at 10:22 am

    Right now I have two fears: my husband’s faith and I worry about his salvation, second leading Bible study



  60. Stephanie on Monday, July 15, 2013 at 10:24 am

    I too have a fear of the future. My husband and I are preparing our hearts (and laying a financial foundation) for starting a family, and while I’m thrilled with the idea of having children and beginning a mom, there are many nights I lay awake in fear of the unknown. Trying to hold onto the truth that God is our provider, strength and our protector. If we keep putting Him first in our lives, He will take care of all these unknowns and give us a spirit of peace in parenting.



  61. melissa buchko on Monday, July 15, 2013 at 10:24 am

    I have always had a fear of being alone but throughout my journey with Jesus I have learned that when I am alone thats when I can give him all of my attention so it is not a bad thing to be alone physically because I am not ever really alone for God is always with me.



  62. Christina on Monday, July 15, 2013 at 10:25 am

    My biggest fear now is my finances and being able to pay bills or necessities.



  63. angie steffen on Monday, July 15, 2013 at 10:31 am

    My biggest fear happened 2yrs ago. I had a migraine and took my meds that I had been on for over 3 yr. On this day while driving I passed out. W/ my 10yr old twins in the car, I went through 2red lights, almost hit by a city bus. God was so with us. The officer 1to arrive heard our last name and told my girls he went to church w/ their grandparents. And 5of the 7fire fighters were Jr fire cadet leaders, and my daughters were in this program, god was w/ us, I thank god every day for my girls, when things like this happen you r able to c why things r. 1 while pregnant w/ my son, I lost his twin, became pregnant again. And what r the chances of 2 twin pregnacy, now if my down’ s would have survived I would not have one of my girls, and I probably would be here.
    I nominated my girls for the heartland hero’s award by red Cros. They won. As a parent I have to give their lives to God. They r not mine they r Gods,
    Thank you
    Angie



  64. Jennifer on Monday, July 15, 2013 at 10:34 am

    As crazy as it sounds, my biggest fear is my own happiness. I feel like sometimes I sabotage the good things in my life because I don’t feel like I deserve them or that I’m good enough. I want good things but for some reason I don’t seem to let myself have it! I don’t really know why this happens.



    • Beth on Monday, July 15, 2013 at 10:40 am

      Dying..and not being here to take care of our children.



    • Bethany on Monday, July 15, 2013 at 12:20 pm

      My eyes widened when I saw your reply. I thought I was the only one who felt that way. I’ve battled depression for six years and just this past few months (ironically while taking a Psychology class in college), I’ve begun to handle it better. Since I’ve been surrounded by depression for so long, I’ve unfortunately got comfortable with it, and this new life that is being created scares me. The happiness is new and it’s out of my comfort zone. Like you, I don’t feel like I deserve this happy life and I also sabotage it and make it more complicated than it needs to be. But I’m learning to rely on Christ and soak up His Word. Jennifer, I don’t know what’s going on in your life, but God does. He’s watching you every moment. Read Psalm 139 when you wake up each morning. Let the truth of this passage to sink in. God made you, not because He had to, but because He wanted to. He loves you enough to die and give you a great life. He has you hemmed in, He knows when you sit down. It’s hard to believe God’s love for you, but if you keep soaking in His presence, He will begin to fill your life and slowly, this fear will be replaced with awe and happiness and praise.



  65. Jeannine on Monday, July 15, 2013 at 10:36 am

    My biggest fear is that my kids will look to external sources for their joy & comfort instead of to God, and will do the same things my brother and I did (brother turned to drugs and alcohol and ended up committing suicide; I turned to men, resulted in significant pain). I pray every day to give “control” up to God, to be reminded that they are growing up under much different circumstances and that He has plans to prosper them, not to hurt or destroy them.



  66. Jaimie on Monday, July 15, 2013 at 10:38 am

    My biggest fear is snakes. Embarrassingly enough, I was called to the mission field in Uganda, Africa and I truly considered not going because of the snakes. Prayer got me through–I didn’t see so much as a skin, but I know it needs to be turned over to The Lord.



  67. Becky on Monday, July 15, 2013 at 10:39 am

    Thanks for this devo. It was so needed because what happened a few days ago.

    My daughter wrecked her car due to a seizure last year. She doesn’t drive at night and doesn’t usually drive more than an hour at a time. Last week she had to drive about 2 hours. Her husband called me to see if I had heard from her. I had not and I could feel more throat constrict and feared she had wrecked again. I sat at my desk and prayed for her safety and wept. Later I received a text from my son in law. She was ok – she stopped to get gas and stretch.

    I was startled to see how fear had griped me.



  68. Tonya Ellison on Monday, July 15, 2013 at 10:41 am

    My biggest fear is failing. Failing at any and everything, so much so that I allow that fear to stop me from doing things and taking steps that I know would benefit me and my family. Im giving it to God. ♥



  69. Beth on Monday, July 15, 2013 at 10:42 am

    Dying….and not being here to raise our children.



  70. Tracey on Monday, July 15, 2013 at 10:47 am

    My biggest fear is missing the purpose of my life. I worry about what I should or should not do next. I worry if I am at the right job, the right church, the right social group. I worry if what I think I am hearing from God is really from Him or not. If I keep worrying this way, I will definitely miss His purpose for my life. So I am committing to trust Him to guide me where He needs me, and to prayerfully consider the choices laid before me, and to compare the decisions made to the guidance available to me through the Bible. I am trusting Him to open the doors for where I need to be and close the ones that are not meant for me.



  71. Brenda on Monday, July 15, 2013 at 10:48 am

    My biggest fear is my children and grandchildren will not dedicate their lives to the Lord. I want to spend eternity with them there.



  72. Robin on Monday, July 15, 2013 at 10:49 am

    My biggest fear is being abandoned or losing the love of the man I love. It’s crippling, and debilitating.



  73. Janelle Keith on Monday, July 15, 2013 at 10:55 am

    Biggest fear…hummm….right now, gaining weight. I have lost 128 lbs. and am afraid that if I relax control (which I have done in the past and that relaxing of the rules resulted in a 30lb gain) then I will start gaining again.



  74. Esther on Monday, July 15, 2013 at 10:57 am

    My biggest fear is for my children’s future in light of today’s continual violence, moral decline, godless society and economic instability.



  75. Tammy on Monday, July 15, 2013 at 11:02 am

    My biggest fear would be that my daughter will not get her life turned and get away from the evil that is around her. However, I have “sorta” stopped worrying and have turned her over to God; I realize now that only He can bring her out of this. I just pray continuously for her safety and care.



  76. Jennifer R on Monday, July 15, 2013 at 11:02 am

    One of my biggest fears is roller coasters. I haven’t faced this fear in over 5 years since my children were born because I wasn’t heading to the theme park to ride these rides with them being little. Well now, they are at the ages where they are tall enough and brave enough to jump on these daring rides without a second thought. No fear!
    This past Friday, my husband and I had a date night with a few friends to Carowinds, here in Charlotte, NC. We started out by riding all of the coasters I had been on before. No big deal. I knew the outcome. But there were three rides I had never tried, nor did I want to. I was scared to death! Well, almost anyway. Trust me when I say that I had no desire to get on these three new roller coasters. Needless to say, I swallowed my fear and jumped on before I could think too much about it. Thinking makes you hesitate and I didn’t want to be the wife that didn’t go with her husband and friends because I was too chicken. Well, we enter in the line of the newest, highest roller coaster, the Intimidator. Named after Dale Earnhardt. Very fitting because it was built for speed. Because we went to the park at night, I couldn’t see the true height and curves of the coaster. We jumped on and before I knew it, we were off. My first fear was that I would fall out. There was no harness and no seatbelt. Only a large rod with a steering wheel shaped top that goes between your legs. That’s it! By that time, it was too late. We were already on our way up. A steep uphill to the top. My eyes were closed the entire time. I pushed myself against the seat to keep myself from feeling like I would fall out. I’m very light and on most coasters, I come slightly off the seat. Scary enough feeling. We got to the top and headed straight down. I’m not looking. Nor did I look the entire ride. I felt as if I was falling over and over again. Screaming non-stop. My husband had his hands up as did my friends. Not me. White knuckle grip on the steering wheel. After 60 seconds of what seemed like minutes, we came to a stop. At some point, there was a picture taken because I could see the flash through my closed eyelids. We got off the ride to see our photo. Yes, I looked as if I was facing my death. I felt better after it was over but I was also proud that I actually didn’t chicken out. I had the ability to do so, but I knew, for the most part, that everything would be fine. After all, I wasn’t the first person on the ride. That experience left me wanting to trust God more. Not that I would be alive after a thrill ride, but that there is a plan for me and I shouldn’t let fear of the unknown drive my actions or lack thereof. I’ve started to ready my Bible daily again and without it, I know I will fall right back into my old routine. I want to trust that God has a plan for me, no matter how fearful it makes me to not know what lies ahead. The Bible is not just a set of rules, but more of guidelines to help live your life to the fullest according to God’s Word. He knows better than I and its time I start truly believing that.



  77. Janetta Dobler on Monday, July 15, 2013 at 11:17 am

    I can’t really say for sure that I fear anything, as I am learning to rely on and trust God more and more each day. I know I have some dislikes, or things that make me very uncomfortable, such as bugs, heights, clowns, monkeys, elephants, getting lost, going somewhere new for the first time, crowds, not being able to find my car in a parking lot, etc. The Lord has brought me thru a lot of very difficult situations, many losses, abuse, rejection, even rape. I may not have all I want (or think I want) in this life, but I have all I need, as long as I have Jesus.



  78. Jane on Monday, July 15, 2013 at 11:27 am

    I have a fear of falling. Several years ago I did fall causing a head injury that has healed but left me with permanent issues. I fear falling again and not recovering. It is a constant prayer that I trust the Lord for protection and safety and believe that He does just that.



  79. Beth Smith on Monday, July 15, 2013 at 11:33 am

    I have lots of fears, but I guess my biggest one is that what will I do once my two daughters go off to college in a few weeks. I quit my job 13 years ago to be a stay at home mom. I have a quilt ministry but feel called to write.
    Fears abound regarding this –
    What to write?
    How to write?
    Blog or book?
    How can I do this?
    Surrendering and this still failing.



    • Bethany on Monday, July 15, 2013 at 12:12 pm

      Oh my gosh, I’m the same way. I love to write and what flows out of me sometimes amazes me. But I’m terrified to take the step and actually seriously think about writing. I think though, our fears aren’t necessarily what to write or how to write it, although that is a struggle. Maybe our fears are stemming from the fear that we may fail or get rejected if we write seriously? I gulp every time I think that God has His purposes even in our failings. I will be praying for you as you face this change in your life.



  80. Peggy Clement on Monday, July 15, 2013 at 11:33 am

    I think my biggest fear is losing or something happening to my husband or children. I use to lay awake at night wandering what I would do without my husband Billy who is also my best friend.



  81. kayla test on Monday, July 15, 2013 at 11:48 am

    My biggest fear is also the saftey of my daughter and raising her the way God wants me too. I daily try to remind my self that God is in control!



  82. Sarah on Monday, July 15, 2013 at 11:54 am

    It’s tough to even limit it to one fear. I have the exact same list as a previously posted comment: “My biggest fear, despite what I know God says to be true, is to totally fail my kids; financially, educationally (homeschoolers), emotionally and spiritually. I feel so close to it far too often.” I pray God’s promises are so true to me that I actually thrive during tough stuff rather than shuddering with fear and backing off. Thanks, P31, for lifting all this up.



  83. Debbie Jo on Monday, July 15, 2013 at 11:58 am

    My biggest fear is I will end up alone, even though I KNOW GOD has a good plan for my life, even though I have four adult children and 5 grandpuppies, and I KNOW i am NOT alone…I still fear ending up alone….God, please help my unbelief, In Jesus Name, Amen!



  84. Bethany on Monday, July 15, 2013 at 12:08 pm

    My biggest fear, I could name earthly ones, like heights, but really, my biggest fear is the fear that I won’t be able to handle the life I feel God is planning for me. It’s overwhelming how much responsibility could fall on me, when I can barely handle the responsibilities I have now. What if I fail and make a fool of His name? I kinda feel like David must have felt when facing the Giant and becoming king. But I have to keep reminding myself that the same God who was with David, even when he fell, is the same God who is with me today. I have to remember that my past has set me up for this future, and looking back, I can see God’s hand EVERYwhere. He will continue to prepare me each step of the way and I just have to focus on today’s tasks that He has given me, knowing He is with me.



  85. Elaine on Monday, July 15, 2013 at 12:10 pm

    My own sin.



  86. Carissa D. Huffman on Monday, July 15, 2013 at 12:10 pm

    I am afraid that our finances are so strapped that we will not be able to find a way to add to our family or ever feel like there is not debt looming over our heads. I am 45 years old, and have a 4 year old son–we all would love to add a baby to our family, but I am OLD, and adoption is EXPENSIVE. We get by every month, and have a small emergency fund (which we use every year and reload when we get a tax refund), but we cannot get ahead. I get tired of treading water. I desperately want a baby in our home, and I want to feel like we are providing for more than daycare, emergencies, toys for now and retirement.

    I am going to remember that He has always provided for us, and really dig deeper into His promises. I cannot live in a state of stress over this, and I am doing all I can do. I am going to let this time grow my faith, and that of my son (who is praying every night for a baby sister, and just expects it to happen any day now).

    Blessings!

    Carissa from eastern Iowa



  87. Kelly on Monday, July 15, 2013 at 12:11 pm

    HEIGHTS! I’ll say it again HEIGHTS are my biggest fear. Complete panic sets in if I am up high and feel there is nothing around to hold me, dizziness, heart racing, sweaty palms all seem to paralyze me. I am sure that the only way to overcome this fear will be by the touch of God.



  88. michelle h on Monday, July 15, 2013 at 12:18 pm

    The safety of my kids!



  89. Amy on Monday, July 15, 2013 at 12:28 pm

    A fear of flying! Despite all the statistics that indicates it is one of the safest modes of travel, I can’t get over the stomach lurching fear of impending disaster whenever I have to fly.



  90. Martha T. on Monday, July 15, 2013 at 12:32 pm

    I am afraid of heights.



  91. Felicia B on Monday, July 15, 2013 at 12:35 pm

    My biggest fear right now is the fear of moving forward without my husband who passed away unexpectadly a short two months ago. It also involves the fear of the unknown. I pray for strength and peace on a daily basis because I never thought I would be doing this alone. My future plans were with my husband. Now all the decisions are mine….alone. I don’t have that person to “bounce” ideas off of anymore. I know I have to leave this one to God because it’s a big one.



  92. Janie Smythe on Monday, July 15, 2013 at 12:38 pm

    I have several fears but the one that has been haunting me for over 20 yrs. is the fear of stray dogs. I got bitten by a stray dog in Mexico and was afraid that he might have had rabies. I had to stop nursing my firstborn daughter due to that traumatic incident and medication that I had to take. Thank God the dog did not have rabies but since then my knees start shaking when I see dogs around me even if they have a leash!



  93. Julia Nall on Monday, July 15, 2013 at 12:43 pm

    One of my biggest fears is that I won’t be able to help my children at all times. I have three children, a 11, 10 and 8 year old boy. With all that is going on in the world and the difference in times, as far as when I was growing up to now, I am so afraid that I will not be able to keep my children in the right way. We go to church as a family and read nightly bible stories, but I know that at their age it is sometimes more exciting to follow those that aren’t faithful to our Lord. I am constantly afraid that I can’t shield them and that what they have been taught won’t be strong enough to sustain. I just have to put faith in My Father that he will keep them safe.



  94. Patricia M on Monday, July 15, 2013 at 12:43 pm

    my fear is being closed in I needed oxygen to care for a wound and had to go into a tank. My sister told me to say the Our Father for the two hours or say the rosary this worked I was able to remain inside for the six weeks with no trouble I thank God for looking out for me and being with me to keep me clam and over coming my fear by just keeping my mind on him.



  95. Halona Luna on Monday, July 15, 2013 at 12:52 pm

    My biggest fear is not being good enough daughter of God and mother to my children of four. I have had a lot of health problems and it has forced me to file for disability and doubt myself. I fear I have gone too far for God to love me.



  96. stephanie on Monday, July 15, 2013 at 1:00 pm

    My biggest fear right now is that my husband will leave me.



  97. Paige Knox on Monday, July 15, 2013 at 1:02 pm

    Safety of my kids and loved ones



  98. Lisa Denton on Monday, July 15, 2013 at 1:04 pm

    The fear of being “invisible” and forgotten. I have often feared rejection and I am so often consumed with being invisible. As if everything I have done will be forgotten when I am gone… Like it will be “Lisa Who”?



  99. yvonne williams on Monday, July 15, 2013 at 1:23 pm

    My fear is that when my biggest test comes from God that I will fail it.



  100. Roxanne Erdman on Monday, July 15, 2013 at 1:34 pm

    My biggest fear is not being able to care for all of my family’s needs.



  101. Michelle K on Monday, July 15, 2013 at 1:42 pm

    My biggest fear is not being pleasing to God. Not being good enough. I have fought this since I was a young girl. I wanted to tell you that I really appreciated your Encouraging Word today. I know in my heart I need to pause more. I just have the hardest time making it happen. I pray that God will continue to give you words to speak to me and countless others.



  102. L. Ruiz on Monday, July 15, 2013 at 2:07 pm

    My biggest fear goes right along with your post today on Proverbs 31.com
    I honestly thought I was the “only one” going through such anxiety and even embarrassed to talk about it. So much that some thoughts and worries are even imagined, just as you posted. I want to thank you for sharing your experiences and growth in Christ as it is encouraging me already. I will continue to trust and believe in Him.



  103. Donna J. on Monday, July 15, 2013 at 2:22 pm

    My biggest fear is that my son will never be released from prison or will be injured while there. He got into trouble shortly after he turned 18, he did not hurt anyone but did deserve to do some time; he was sentenced to 35yrs to life! Right now he has found tremendous favor with the officers where he is but he is very far away from us so it is hard to visit; he has asked to be moved. This frightens me so much! I keep having to remind myself that God has had His hand on him this whole time and He will continue to protect him.

    I think giving your children over to God is the hardest thing to do; but we have to remember that God gave them to us first and that they are ultimately His. When I remind myself of this it is easier to know that he will be alright. I also hold on to the hope in Jeremiah 29:11. I know that God has great plans for him!



  104. Tricia on Monday, July 15, 2013 at 2:36 pm

    I am terribly afraid of snakes. Sometimes I even jump at the sight of hoses when they are laying in the grass.



  105. Karen on Monday, July 15, 2013 at 2:46 pm

    My greatest fear is my husband leaving me. I try not to let it consume me and have to work at it in a constant state of prayer. I’m so blessed that I never have to worry about Jesus leaving me!



  106. CarrieC on Monday, July 15, 2013 at 2:47 pm

    My biggest fear is loss of security/being uprooted, which God has seen fit to desensitize me to quite a bit recently. I’ll have to get back with you later as to whether or not it’s working–haha!



  107. Nita on Monday, July 15, 2013 at 2:51 pm

    I am scared of just letting to! I pray daily to let go and let God! Totally a AA saying but as I practice my obedience in being still The more I understand the process of undoing old unhealthy behavior. I walked the path of a Christian I’m my head but not in my heart for so many years that my obedience is having to be learned like a child! Life is so much easier when I put The Lord first!



  108. sheri godwin on Monday, July 15, 2013 at 2:55 pm

    My biggest free is that my adult children will fall into a cycle of addiction. This fear is growing as they get older and the draw of alcohol is so powerful in our world. addiction runs in our family. I long to give this to god.



  109. Nikki Koon on Monday, July 15, 2013 at 3:30 pm

    My biggest fear is spiders. I am horribly, unreasonably afraid of any arachnid. For me it’s to the point that even typing the word gave me shudders. It’s ironic to me that I can turn almost anything in my life over to God, but for some reason this one his hard for me. I commit to turning this over to God, and will pray for his peace and strength to be able to do so.



  110. Jeanie Kelley on Monday, July 15, 2013 at 3:32 pm

    I do believe my biggest fear is having Daniel growing up in a family that does not know God. I am very blessed that we do know Him personally, but Daniel is 13 years old and him wanting to stay home from church is one of the things that bothers me all the time. He did get baptized this last year and I am afraid it has not stuck. I want to hand this over to God.



  111. Terri on Monday, July 15, 2013 at 3:37 pm

    Worry about my daughter is right up there and have to
    Daily even hourly pray for reminders that my God is
    Bigger than any worry and what do I think
    My God is not big enough to take care of my daughter?
    Of course not. He is bigger than I can even imagine!!!!!



  112. Jenny Rutan on Monday, July 15, 2013 at 4:05 pm

    My biggest fear is my self-esteem! Never feeling good enough or pretty enough. I am fasting, praying and reading Renee Swoops book A Confident Heart. I will NOT let satan win this battle…MY GOD MADE ME PERFECT AND WONDERFUL! Thanks so much for sharing your heart and struggles. God bless you and your family.
    Jenny



  113. Kim on Monday, July 15, 2013 at 4:13 pm

    My biggest fear right now is finding daily peace in singleness and my decision to leave my fiancé. In the past year or so, my relationship with Jesus has blossomed into something it has never been before. I’m finding myself constantly reminded of the truths of the gospel—and am discovering I am more reaffirmed in knowing that I can measure the depth of God’s love for me by the cross. What an amazing truth we often forget. But by it, I am measuring every situation and every circumstance that comes my way, knowing that there is NOTHING I can do to make Him love me more, nor nothing I have done to make Him love me any less. When we stop to first realize that ultimately God is not sitting up in Heaven, scornfully saying, “Shame on you for your sin! Why can’t you get better?” but rather viewing us in the same way He views His son, Christ Jesus, the truth is so liberating. I find I am hungry for His truths and to learn more of His ways, not because I have to or that it’s the right thing to do as Christians, but because I want to be as deeply in love with my Savior as He is with me.

    It was with a heavy heart that I made the decision to leave my fiancé, while he currently serves in the U.S. Navy. This coming fall, the Lord opened doors and is bringing me to France to be on the mission field and I see now He has very different plans for our lives. I am scared, but overwhelmed by how easily He has opened doors for each of us. He has filled me with a peace I cannot understand about the decisions along the way, especially when it comes to leaving my fiancé. But in times where I am forgetting how much He has already provided, it is easy to get scared that I will be alone, especially when my heart craves companionship and ultimately being a wife and mom. Some days I have to remind myself nearly hourly of His unfailing love and it soothes me to know that ultimately, His plan is better than anything I could have ever dreamed for myself, His most precious beloved.



    • Wendy on Monday, July 15, 2013 at 9:05 pm

      Hi Kim just wondering why you need to leave your fiance? You don’t say why…..has God prompted you to do so? Is it because he isn’t a christian? Maybe if the latter…pray for his heart to change….If your desire is to be a good wife and mother then I’m sure God will help you to be so…



      • Kim on Tuesday, July 16, 2013 at 10:20 am

        Wendy, thank you so much for your sweet words. Yes, the Lord definitely has placed it on my heart that I was settling for less than His best. Truth be told, I met Javier at a time where I had completely abandoned my faith in the Lord and he was not a believer. Our relationship grew faster than it ever should have, with us quickly moving in together and also quickly beginning the cycle of extreme codependence/mental distress. When I mentioned that the last year or so has been so meaningful to me, it’s truly because I have discovered a closeness to the Lord I had never before experienced, and was coming back from a very dark place spiritually. All the praise be to the Lord because Javier started to really discover what faith meant to him as well and we started to grow with one another. Ultimately I realized that I don’t think I had ever truly wanted to marry him, but help fix him. I knew that if I was to find true freedom in Jesus and my own personal growth, I had to relinquish that responsibility to God and trust that He can take care of his son. And the blessing in it all is that I know Javier is now striving to make his faith more authentic and not have it be dependent on my growth spiritually as well. He is finding Christian men in the military who are really coming out of the wood work and helping harbor his spiritual growth–and for this, and so much more, I praise Jesus for showing me his provision when I was finally faithful enough to trust Him and to just let go.



  114. Lori Waldron on Monday, July 15, 2013 at 4:26 pm

    Right now my biggest fear is not being able to have children. Last year I had a miscarraige and have not been able to get pregenant since. I am 30 and if I don’t get pregnant this month I will be 31 before I have my first child. I am trying not to let the stressors of the world (being older & married for a while, 8 years) bother me. There are plenty of women in my church who are praying for me and helping me with this. I want to be at peace with God’s plan for me but currently am scared of the what-if’s. I know God has a special plan for me and I shouldn’t compare myself to others. Thank you for your encouragement with your devotions.



  115. Anna on Monday, July 15, 2013 at 4:43 pm

    My biggest fear is the safety of our children, and our grandchildren Right now I am asking for prayer for my 17 year old daughter. She was in an abusive relationship, we found out last year, and we got a restraining order. She has been gone for two days and will not return our calls. We saw a picture on some site with friends from Friday night and she is there will the ex-boyfriend. I have been praying for God to help us. Please pray with us..

    Dearest Lord, protect our little girl, which you gave us to raise. We love you and thank you that You choose us to be her parents, I especially thank you that I am her mother.. Now I ask in faith, to give my husband and I strength for what is to come, we place our child in Your hands, you are mighty, merciful , gracious and loving. We will not allow the enemy to steal the joy we have in you or our faith. Lead us and guide us through this “dark valley”. In Jesus name, Amen



  116. Lorah on Monday, July 15, 2013 at 4:47 pm

    As I learn to trust God in everything in my life, I don’t have very many rational fears. I do still have some of those “irrational” fears like sleeping in a room with dolls, a bridge collapsing while I drive over it, being buried alive and a spider crawling in my ear while I sleep. Silly stuff, but I bet God thinks some of our fears are “silly” in His eyes too. Thank you for your post today, it helped to remind to rely on Him for everything, even those “silly” things!



  117. mona on Monday, July 15, 2013 at 4:52 pm

    my biggest fear is what will happen to me if God doesn’t heal my husband of 31 years from his drug addiction.



  118. Diane on Monday, July 15, 2013 at 5:25 pm

    My greatest concern (right now) is my son, who graduated from college over a year ago and has been struggling to find full-time employment. I have realized, but it has taken me decades to do it, that only God is in control–not me, try as I might. I have seen so much growth in both my son and myself as I have relinquished full control to God. It truly helps to know that God loves my children more than I do–and that’s a lot!



  119. Debbie on Monday, July 15, 2013 at 5:36 pm

    My biggest fear is not getting my health and strength back after fighting breast cancer. I have been so sick from treatments and just the stress and fear that the cancer will come back that I have been unable to live a normal life for over 2 years. I know that God has gotten me through things I could never have done on my own strength, but I still fear the unknown when it comes to my health.



  120. Caroline S on Monday, July 15, 2013 at 5:44 pm

    My biggest fear involves seeking legal separation from my abusive spouse.



  121. Eileen on Monday, July 15, 2013 at 6:10 pm

    I can relate to all the fears you mentioned in your post today. But my biggest fear is not being able to breathe. I don’t know why, but I have always been terrified of having anything covering my mouth or nose. Not as serious a fear as some other readers, but a fear nonetheless! Tracie, thank you for all your wisdom and for reminding us that we’re not alone in our daily lives and all the fears that creep up – God has us covered!



  122. Kathy on Monday, July 15, 2013 at 6:20 pm

    My fear is to be attacked and not being able to scream for help.



  123. Kelly on Monday, July 15, 2013 at 6:26 pm

    My biggest fear is the health and safety of my kids. It is getting better the more I let go and trust God to protect them and give me the strength to handle anything that comes my way.



  124. Sue on Monday, July 15, 2013 at 7:34 pm

    My biggest fear is not being able to afford to retire in two years when I turn 65 because of the high cost of health care. I have been working for 38 years now and I am tired and burned out, but I fear growing older and not being able to enjoy retirement.



  125. Dana on Monday, July 15, 2013 at 8:04 pm

    My biggest fear is my children’s safety. I have a lot anxiety and worry in my life and need to trust God.



  126. Mary Tallman on Monday, July 15, 2013 at 9:14 pm

    Well one fear is that my son will never accept Jesus as his Lord and Savior. I pray all the time for that…..I also have alot of other people praying too. I also have a more minor fear…..if put in perspective….of insects with stingers…especially tbe flying kind….eeesh!!!!!



  127. Nicole on Monday, July 15, 2013 at 9:20 pm

    I fear death because I have not accomplished goals that I have set for myself. I want to find my purpose in this world and I want to live out the divine plan God has for me.



  128. Angie Smith on Monday, July 15, 2013 at 9:26 pm

    My biggest fear is the unknown. Even though I know God is in control of everything. I just have to remember to let go and let God.



  129. Lisa F. on Monday, July 15, 2013 at 9:51 pm

    My biggest fear is the future (and the unknown, but the future is the biggest unknown)… Including my children’s safety and well-being as they grow up, if I will get to see them grow up, health issues that may come up (especially cancer), our financially stability or if we will ever get out of debt, if my husband will continue to be with me (in our marriage, parenting, finances, etc.), my husband’s safety and well-being in his job as a police officer, car accidents, school shootings (especially being a kindergarten teacher), wars,… Need I go on? These thoughts come into my mind so often and I try to give them to God as soon as I realize that they are there, but I do sometimes dwell on them more than I should. I need to trust God more and remember that He goes before me and has a plan!



  130. Deborah H. on Monday, July 15, 2013 at 10:13 pm

    My biggest fear is snakes. I am terrified of them! My grandchildren know to not even say the word around me. I’m also afraid that I will die without ever being truly happy. I want to know my children and grandchildren are happy and healthy- doing whatever God calls them to do. Then I want to know true joy and happiness myself. Not real sure what that means exactly.



  131. Deb H. on Monday, July 15, 2013 at 10:26 pm

    my biggest fear is for the safety of my children and grandchildren.



  132. Christina H on Monday, July 15, 2013 at 10:30 pm

    My biggest fear I losing those I love. I’ve realized thought that if I constantly focus on what could happen, I miss the memories I could be making with them right now and soaking myself in their love. God has a plan, one I don’t understand but so far He has never steered me wrong. Why would He now?



    • Mary T on Monday, July 15, 2013 at 10:44 pm

      Christina, found it comforting that you and I were writing our comments at the same time. I Pray that we both make many memories with those we love! God bless!



  133. Mary T on Monday, July 15, 2013 at 10:40 pm

    My biggest fear has already been realized twice this year… Jesus called two of my children (students) home. I work with medically fragile children, one of whom is my own grandson. I know deep in my heart and soul that this earth is not our home, but my feelings of loss have been challenging…not so sure it is a fear as much as a feeling of selfishness for wanting to keep them all with me forever…either way it is as I well know in God’s hands!



  134. Naomi on Monday, July 15, 2013 at 10:45 pm

    My biggest fear is something happening to my kids; being kidnapped, an accident, being run over by a car backing up. It’s hard tow relinquish those fears when my imagination runs wild, but I commit to give this fear to God right now.



  135. Jenna C. on Monday, July 15, 2013 at 10:46 pm

    My biggest fear is for someone to break into our home and harm my family or me. I have struggled with this fear since childhood, and I’m now 25 with a husband and child. It’s time to give this fear over to God. I can do normal things such as lock my doors and be aware of my surroundings, and God can go beyond that to relieve me of the irrational fear that someone would target my home and harm my family.



  136. Amy on Monday, July 15, 2013 at 10:56 pm

    I live too much in fear. Daily between fear for losing my spouse that he will walk away from faith and from us. Fear for something bad to happen to my kids for harm to come to them. Fear of death. Too much and so much sometimes I’m overtaken so badly I can’t breathe. I’m trying everyday to turn it over to God fully.



  137. Doris Burd on Monday, July 15, 2013 at 11:28 pm

    My biggest fear is losing my daughter or husband! I’m giving it to Jesus!



  138. Heidi Collier on Monday, July 15, 2013 at 11:53 pm

    One of my biggest fears is devoting so much time and energy into a relationship and not being appreciated or loved.
    I’m learning daily to look to the Lord and seek him rather than earthly relationships.



  139. Bekka on Tuesday, July 16, 2013 at 12:51 am

    One of my biggest fears is that something will happen to me and my four kids will be left without their momma. I have kept this to myself, and thought it was really silly until I was reading through other comments. I know now that I am not alone in this fear. I also know that God is in control, and I need to cast my fears upon him.



  140. Julie on Tuesday, July 16, 2013 at 4:49 am

    My greatest fears are surrounding my children: that I will fail as a mummy, that something will happen to me so that I won’t be there for them, but mostly that they will not become believers and be there in eternity with my husband and me. The other is what I will do when I finish homeschooling them (14ish years, so not exactly imminent!) These fears aren’t severe as I know God is in control, but they could become so if I were to dwell on them.



  141. marie on Tuesday, July 16, 2013 at 6:21 am

    This past school year, my 10 year old made a mother’s day project in school. He wrote a prose about me, his mother, using guidelines the teacher gave them. It had where I am from, what my occupation is, places I have been, and also my fears. He wrote ….”who fears her children getting hurt.” And I do worry… not just my children being physically hurt but also emotionally, mentally, and most importantly spiritually hurt. I am afraid that as they get older, they might stray away from God. THAT is more frightening to me than anything. I commit to pray for them daily not just in my morning quiet time but throughout the day when they come to mind, when they fight, after I finish reprimanding them… whenever possible, short simple prayers for them.



  142. Arlene S on Tuesday, July 16, 2013 at 6:43 am

    I have many fears but one is the fear of failure. Spending o much of my earthly life trying to prove to others I am something…I have been praying on this and releasing my fear of failure to God!



  143. Paula on Tuesday, July 16, 2013 at 7:02 am

    My greatest fear may change from day to day and depending upon what happens in that particular day. I know the Lord orders my day and I’ve seen Him “handle my day” more often than not. Even on those days when it doesn’t seem He is hearing/seeing/handling my day, His word has promised that He is there. Solution — His precious word.



  144. kelley on Tuesday, July 16, 2013 at 7:24 am

    I’ve always been afraid of failure. I get so stressed trying to be it all and doing I all. I don’t let others help because I
    Don’t trust. I have been learning and trying to let go and let God. 🙂



  145. Diane on Tuesday, July 16, 2013 at 7:39 am

    Bankruptcy. We are half way thru a debt management program and struggling! As main bill payer and primary finance coordinator of our household i feel completely responsible and am tired of all the juggling . Somehow i pray my marraige will survive



  146. Tammy on Tuesday, July 16, 2013 at 7:55 am

    Number one fear – future for my children, their health and well being. I always make my morning words to them “walk with Jesus”.



  147. Misty on Tuesday, July 16, 2013 at 8:23 am

    I am really struggling with fear in parenting my children who are 15 and 13. I know that they both are spiritually led, but I still fear the what ifs. I am a high school teacher, so I know all the “things” that are out there that could possibly lead them astray. I have to keep reminding myself that they were God’s before they were mine and they will be God’s after they are mine.



  148. BethA on Tuesday, July 16, 2013 at 8:32 am

    I think my biggest fear is for my child — safety, good grades in school, Christian friends, getting in to the college of her choice. I’m ashamed of myself for not trusting God in this. I KNOW He holds the future and that he loves my child even more than I do.



  149. BEVERLY SHOOK on Tuesday, July 16, 2013 at 9:19 am

    My biggest fear is failure. In my mind I fail daily, whethr
    Big or small failure. It causes me to not step out in many different
    Areas. I need to commit my self to God and His perfect plan and
    Trust Him.



  150. Melissa Waters on Tuesday, July 16, 2013 at 9:23 am

    My biggest fear is causing someone else to stumble in their walk with God or their future walk with God.
    I think this is what keeps me from witnessing as much as my heart desires. I am afraid that I will give them the wrong information or convey it the wrong way.
    M. Waters



  151. Laura Rhodes on Tuesday, July 16, 2013 at 10:11 am

    My greatest fear is that something awful will happen to one of my children or my husband and they will be taken from me way too soon.



  152. Karen H. on Tuesday, July 16, 2013 at 12:29 pm

    My biggest fear-claustrophobia. As a result of a stroke I had in 2004, claustrophobia has hindered medical tests like MRI”s, CT scans, can’t sleep on the top of a bunk bed, long elevator rides, and other seemingly silly things.



  153. Heather Blackwood on Tuesday, July 16, 2013 at 12:41 pm

    My biggest fear is losing my children or that they might get hurt by something or someone. My children are my everything! I can’t even imagine how it would feel if they became sick with an illness. My heart always goes out to parents with sick children or ones who have lost their child. I pray for so many children and their parents when I hear stories like that. Children bring so much love into a home. My children are the reason I get up in the mornings. I couldn’t start my day without their hugs and love. God is the reason I wake up. I thank God everyday for my precious blessings, my children.



  154. Kari on Tuesday, July 16, 2013 at 1:33 pm

    For 35 years, I was deathly afraid of snakes, even pictures of them! However, when I came face to face with one, when looking for my lost diamond, while staying at a friend’s cabin alone, God spent the weekend helping me overcome that fear, and teaching me MUCH more about my relationship with Him! At first, I didn’t think I’d ever be able to step outside the cabin again and was convinced someone would have to come “rescue” me! God turned it into one of the most meaningful weekends of my life! He is good!!



  155. Stephanie Edwards on Tuesday, July 16, 2013 at 3:52 pm

    My biggest fear is that no matter how hard we try, we will never get out of debt. I want to be able to live comfortably and not paycheck to paycheck.



    • Dawn Marie Jackson on Tuesday, July 16, 2013 at 11:19 pm

      That’s a big one of my fears too!



  156. Pam K on Tuesday, July 16, 2013 at 5:27 pm

    My biggest fear is being out of control and failing to meet the perceived expectations and assumptions of those around me – particularly with my husband and kids. I need to trust and walk with my Lord, knowing that He will give me strength and my identity rests in Him!



  157. LRF on Tuesday, July 16, 2013 at 6:46 pm

    I do have some fears kind of like the ones you mentioned~so called “small” fears to some but huge to me, things like heights for instance~ going over really big bridges causes me great fear!

    BUT my biggest fear is that my youngest son will not come to know the Lord~ though he is young yet, he is so very hard hearted in some areas & so very sinful. I am so afraid that Jesus will come back w/o my youngest having come to a saving knowledge of HIM. I know this is something I can only pray about it & I can only do my best with my youngest by teaching him the ways of God etc. BUT knowing that God is in control & not allowing the worry to take over me is totally different especially when he does the same sin over & over & there seems to be no remorse! I need to be on my knees for him yes, but also for me that God would help me trust Him for my sons eternal soul b/c HE is the only one who can save my son, not me. So that’s my greatest fear, I can’t believe I just admitted it but I did & maybe that’s a start to letting go, maybe…



  158. Dawn Marie Jackson on Tuesday, July 16, 2013 at 11:18 pm

    My fear is living a mediocre life instead of extraordinary.



  159. Mia on Wednesday, July 17, 2013 at 8:10 pm

    a big fear for me is failing to be a good mommy, and giving my baby the best in life/



  160. Sherri Wicker on Thursday, July 18, 2013 at 11:53 am

    My greatest fear is snakes!!!



  161. Tasha M on Thursday, July 18, 2013 at 5:18 pm

    My biggest fear is not having the funds to meet all my obligations each month. We are a single income family and have cut out a LOT of extras, but we still struggle each month. It’s very stressful.



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