In today’s Proverbs 31 devotion titled It Takes More Than Time To Heal A Broken Heart, I shared a story about the time I trimmed back my huge beloved gardenia bushes only to later find out it wasn’t the proper time of year to trim them. As a result, the hundreds of fragrant blooms that has blossomed every spring failed to appear.
I was so disappointed, but in late summer, one little bloom popped out. Then another. And another. There weren’t near as many as in years past, but the bushes were trying their hardest to come back to life. Here’s a couple pictures of my backyard bushes at the very beginning of spring a couple years ago before they reached full bloom:
Here’s a photo of the one little bloom that popped out after months of being sad they weren’t blooming – yes I took a photo of it and sent it to my kids with excitement 🙂
The point of the devotion was that sometimes it takes a while to recover and heal from things that break us. Whether it’s the end of a relationship or a marriage, a rebellious child, the death of a loved one, or another difficult situation, only Jesus can really bandage and heal those wounds that nobody else can see but Him.
My heart is not completely healed from the brokenheartedness I’ve experienced over the last few years, but I do know God has been with me all along the way and He always walks by our side to help us heal. Healing takes time, but it also takes the power of Jesus.
Below are a few tips on how to jumpstart your journey towards emotional healing.
Seek God with all your heart, mind and soul.
I have no idea how people get through difficult times without Jesus. And even for those of us who know Jesus, we often blame Him for our hardships instead of invite Him to draw closer during them. When we are at our weakest, He is at His strongest. We are made strong in His power, and we cannot do it in our own. If you’re going through a difficult time, make your prayer life and reading God’s Word a priority like never before.
Don’t let feelings of rejection steal your self confidence.
Typically when we feel brokenhearted, it’s due to being rejected or betrayed by a friend, loved one, spouse, parent, child or even a co-worker. Someone else’s rejection does not determine your worth in God’s eyes or in this world. Research verses in God’s Word about who you are and Whose you are and tuck those truths into your heart. Each time thoughts and feelings from rejection pop into your mind, intentionally focus on God’s truths instead. Consider making a list of all the wonderful things that make you you and keep those close by when you’re feeling down.
Focus on loving others.
When we feel hurt or brokenhearted, it’s easy to become consumed with how we’re feeling. Those feelings can become so overwhelming, they can control our life and keep us trapped in bondage to sadness and hurt. But if we make it a point to love on others every day and be the hands and feet of Jesus, we take the focus off of ourselves. Loving on others helps us stop obsessing about our own issues and feelings all the time and gives us the opportunity to enjoy the blessing of being a blessing.
Control your thoughts.
Ever laid in bed in the middle of the night thinking about all your problems and by morning they’ve become bigger in your mind than they already were? Day or night, when we constantly think negative thoughts fueled with hopelessness, sorrow, resentment or anger, those thoughts will determine how we feel. How we feel determines how we will behave, our moods and how we live everyday life. Our inner thoughts become our outer actions.
As recommended in my book Unsinkable Faith: God-filled Strategies for Transforming the Way You Think, Feel and Live, I give 3 tips for learning to turn your thoughts around.
1) Ask God to help you recognize your negative thoughts when they happen,
2) Reject those negative thoughts and refuse to think them anymore, and
3) Replace negative thoughts with something more true, positive or pleasing to God.
Putting this simple practice into place in your life will help you transform your heart and your mind, even if your circumstances remain the same.
For more tips on transforming your mind regardless of the hard times you might be going through. and to help you jumpstart your journey to emotional healing through Jesus, click here to purchase Unsinkable Faith.