Do you ever feel like a failure as a mom, simply because no matter how hard you try, you always seem to fall short in the perfection category?
I’ll quickly confess that I have had these feelings countless times, from feeling guilty over letting my baby wear a wet diaper too long, to feeling guilty over losing my temper with my teenager. The desire to be a perfect mom is always tucked quietly away in the back of our minds, setting us up for imminent mommy guilt.
I feel fairly confident that every mom can relate to those feelings, and that every mom needs some reassurance that nobody expects them to be perfect. That’s why I am so honored to promote Jill Savage’s newly released book called No More Perfect Moms. I mean seriously, the title alone is encouraging!
So today I have invited Jill – who is the Founder and CEO of Hearts at Home and the author of 9 books – to guest post on my blog, and she also graciously agreed to give away a free copy of her new book! In this book, Jill is honest and transparent about how God is growing her even through difficult seasons of life, and I know it will speak to your heart.
So below is a great message from Jill, and at the bottom of this post you can find out how to enter to win the giveaway.
When child number one threw a fit in the grocery store one day, screaming at the top of her lungs in this very public place, I was so embarrassed.
I’d witnessed a scene like that before I had children, and I swore my kids would never do that. Since becoming a mom, I’ve found myself in all kinds of situations I never thought I’d be in.
When the kids didn’t sleep much, I found myself beyond weary. When they didn’t potty train as quickly as other kids their age, I was discouraged. When they grew older and began to have a mind of their own, I found myself exhausted from the conflict.
I’m less patient than I thought I’d be. I weigh more than I want to. My children are more strong-willed than I expected. At times, my marriage isn’t the “happily ever after” I dreamed it would be.
Inside I think thoughts like: I don’t measure up. I’m failing as a mom. My kids don’t act like her kids. My house doesn’t look like her house. My body doesn’t look like her body. My husband doesn’t help like her husband does. What is wrong with me?
Have you ever felt that way? Have you wondered what is wrong with you, with your family, with your kids?
The truth is that nothing is wrong with you or your family–or me and my family. We are all normal. Our frustrations are normal. Our disappointments are normal. Our struggles are normal.
When you and I compare our insides to other women’s outsides, we always come out short. We’re comparing our struggles to their masks. There are no perfect moms (just women who make a good outward appearance). There are no perfect kids (just kids who are dressed well and behave well just when you see them). There are no perfect houses (just ones where the clutter is cleverly stored!) There are no perfect bodies (just ones who know the beauty of Spanx!)
Perfection doesn’t exist…but unfortunately we waste a lot of time and energy pursuing the elusive mirage we’re just sure can be found. While we’re pursuing perfection, we’re missing out on the most precious parts of life: the laughter of silliness, the joy of spontaneity, the lessons found in failure, and the freedom found in grace.
Let’s give ourselves—and our family–the gift of grace to make mistakes. We can’t be perfect moms, but we are the perfect mom for our kids.
So what about you? How has motherhood surprised you?
Leave a comment sharing how motherhood has surprised you at times, and you’ll be entered to win a copy of No More Perfect Moms. Random drawing will be held on Wednesday February 20th and winner will be announced on my blog.