You Might Possibly Have One of These Syndromes

This week I had the privilege of being a part of my sweet friend Amy Carroll’s book release party for her new book, Breaking Up With Perfect: Kiss Perfection Good-Bye and Embrace the Joy God Has In Store for You. Here’s a few pictures from our awesome and fun evening!

AMY

The whole night was about breaking up with the tendency to try to be perfect, or at least look and seem perfect to others. Can you relate?

Maybe your struggle with perfectionism is real and this would be the perfect book for you – but even if you think you don’t struggle with this issue, you might be surprised.

Recently I read Breaking Up with Perfect and Amy’s words opened my eyes not only to the fact that I am apparently a perfectionist in denial, but that it has affected my life and my relationships in a lot of different ways.

One point Amy drives home throughout her message is that no matter who we are or how we are, us women will most likely be able to identify with one of two categories —- the Good Girl Syndrome, or the Never Good Enough Syndrome.

In the first chapter, Amy says this.  “How did we get to the place where all looks well on the outside but we’re starved on the inside? Some lovers of Perfect live with the Good Girl Syndrome. These women are rule followers by nature and bask in earning the pleasure of the people surrounding them. Others live with the Never Good Enough Syndrome. These women use their flawless exterior to cover the wounds and shame of their pasts. Both kinds of women build an external structure rule by rule and pleasant smile by pleasant smile. We seek to portray our lives as picturesque cottages with English gardens surrounded by white picket fences. But inside the rooms of our hearts are empty, echoing boxes devoid of the wonderful messiness of deep relationships, love, authenticity, and compassion.” 

I don’t know which category you identify with most, but as for me, I think I fall most into the Never Good Enough Syndrome category. I’m positive the term  ‘flawless exterior’ would not be one I’d use to describe myself, but I’ve always known I’m a Type A, task-master, goal-oriented, to-do list driven, over achiever. A woman who might appear confident, but who would let any criticism knock her to her knees and cause her to go hide in the bathroom and sulk if she felt unliked, rejected or unaccepted by someone, or a group of someones. A woman who would carefully but quietly distance herself from the person(s) who had hurt her, or made her feel not enough and keep them at a safe distance from that point forward.  Fear of rejection and the hurt of other people’s unkindness has always been a struggle for me, and has sometimes even caused relationships that I cared about to dwindle.

But to be perfectly honest, I honestly never considered any of those things “perfectionist”  tendencies, and certainly never considered myself a perfectionist. Okay, well maybe a little, but not full on perfectionist!  

The good news is that my walk with God over the past several years has helped with all of that so much, although that syndrome still tries to rear its’ ugly head every now and then and I have to fight the urge to retreat into hiding or put up walls if I feel threatened, hurt or uncomfortable. Yet I honestly never considered how those personality traits affected my relationships with others, much less how it affected my relationship with God.

Amy said this in Chapter Eight, “In the end, I don’t want to be known for completing my lists. I want to be known for loving God and loving others well.” I loved that.

Might we all stop worrying about completing our to-do lists, trying to be super-woman-wife-mom-employee-boss-church volunteer-ministry leader-best friend-cookiebaker-PTA President-symbol of perfection and confidence, and start letting down our guards, tearing down walls, asking God to fill our hearts, and letting loving people and sharing the love of Jesus be our motivator for all we do, think and say? How life changes when we care most about loving God and others, and less about our busyness and our attempts to look like we have it all together.

I could write on and on about this message in Breaking Up With Perfect, because I know it’s one that will change hearts and free women from trying to live up to expectations they were never meant to live up to. But whether you are a Good Girl or a Never Good Enough Girl, I believe God might have some sweet nuggets of truth to speak into your heart through Amy’s words.

Breaking Up With PerfectSo – who would like a free copy of the book hot off the press?!  

To enter to win a copy of Breaking Up With Perfect, leave a comment sharing which ‘syndrome’ you struggle with most and how this book might be a great read for you this summer. 

To purchase your copy of Breaking Up With Perfect which released just this week, CLICK HERE!  (Note: Today’s the last day for Proverbs 31’s flash sale of this book at a price of only $11.00 per book!) 

61 Comments

  1. Wendy Wilkerson on Friday, July 10, 2015 at 8:20 am

    I can identify with both “syndromes” but they way you describe yourself sounds VERY familiar. I am often called a perfectionist but I always respond by saying that I must be a really BAD perfectionist because there is nothing perfect about me! I feel like a failure as a Christian because I can’t allow myself to experience the joy of salvation for always striving to be better and do more.



  2. Beckey on Friday, July 10, 2015 at 8:25 am

    I think I fall into each a little. Or maybe right in the middle. I have Good Girl Syndrome, and then when I fall short I wallow in Never Good Enough for a food long pity party



    • Beckey on Friday, July 10, 2015 at 8:25 am

      “For long enough”… thank you spell check! LOL



  3. Karen Ketterman on Friday, July 10, 2015 at 8:25 am

    Never Good Enough….not only would this book help me but would allow me to help others who know the same feeling of this one or the other syndrome. It goes along with what Abba is teaching me about myself and being vulnerable and how much He loves us.



  4. Paige E on Friday, July 10, 2015 at 8:29 am

    “A woman who would carefully but quietly distance herself from the person(s) who had hurt her, or made her feel not enough and keep them at a safe distance from that point forward.” — wow. Although I also don’t exhibit the “flawless” label, this is all me. Especially at church. I feel most insecure there. I don’t feel like I hold up to the standard and I’m so lonely there. I have been battling this so much lately. I wrote a list of what I’m really afraid of and the common theme was that I somehow feel its my job to fix everyone and everything and if I fail, the world will somehow be altered negatively. God forgive me for having such little faith! Please help me move over to the passenger seat and fill in all the gaps. Control is such an illusion and it steals my happiness. Thanks for sharing your heart, Traci and Amy! Can’t wait to read the book!



  5. Shelly Green on Friday, July 10, 2015 at 8:38 am

    Never Good Enough Syndrome!



  6. Sam on Friday, July 10, 2015 at 8:46 am

    Then there are women like me who as proper perfectionists, got a double dose and flit between Never Good enough and the Good Girl Syndromes. Twice as exhausting!Definitely could do with this book.Please send me a copy. Thanks



  7. Tracy on Friday, July 10, 2015 at 8:47 am

    I am definitely in recovery from both of these syndromes 🙂 I also can see our second daughter developing the Good Girl syndrome…. So I am extra motivated to address these issues for us at this time. Well done!!



  8. Hope on Friday, July 10, 2015 at 8:54 am

    I definitely fall in the “Never Good Enough” category. I struggle with always wanting to be perfect in what I do to the point that sometimes it holds me back from trying new things for fear that I won’t be perfect. I know this book could be an incredible blessing, if it helped me break away from this compulsion to be perfect. I’m sure I would enjoy life so much more if I would just let go and try—even if I’m not perfect and I make mistakes.



  9. Kathy on Friday, July 10, 2015 at 9:10 am

    I may have a little of the Good Girl Sydrome, but definitely suffer with the Never Good Enough Syndrome, both of which I am working on trying to dispell….I most definitely need to read this book and have been saving emails re devotions relating to it until I get a copy.



  10. Melissa Oldaker on Friday, July 10, 2015 at 9:17 am

    I think I spend time in both worlds, but probably more of my life living with Good Girl Syndrome. Sounds like a great read!!



  11. Jaime on Friday, July 10, 2015 at 9:22 am

    Wow. I am right in the crosshairs of this message. I am exhausted from striving. I don’t know which syndrome is more me. I am always trying to do an A+ job at everything I do and am definitely the rule follower, but I never feel good enough. Although I am not one to patch it up with smiles and a perfect exterior. I’m pretty sure right now I look like the mess I feel. Emotions are right out on my sleeve these days. I feel like I am in a pit and I want to be free! I spent all night praying over this very thing. Glad to have found this email when I gave up trying to sleep.



  12. Karen on Friday, July 10, 2015 at 9:26 am

    Yes, I think most of us can say we connect with both of these syndromes depending on what got us there in the first place. For me, I know it was when I was 12 yrs old, attacked by the son of an elder from my first church and the inability of my parents to “hear” what had taken place. From that time on I internalized that I had to be at least 150% good enough for anyone to simply hear me, not reject me and that list went on. Perfectionist traits apparently compliment that false understanding to combat the erroneous thinking of a young girl and the “good girl” was forged in survival. Needless to say, the Lord’s patience, healing and renewal has uprooted this past during the last 53 years. I just returned from a mission trip to Mexico and the Lord blessed me there and back with His promised reassurances that He is still completing His good works that have been in place since the beginning of time and His very real peace goes with me through this ongoing process. Ps. 62:5 “Find rest, O my soul, in God alone.” I would be blessed to receive a copy of this book to continue my journey of growing in confidence in my relationship with the Lord and sharing it with others.



  13. Rachelle Craig on Friday, July 10, 2015 at 9:28 am

    When I read your post on this book the other day, I knew immediately that this book is a Must Read for me.

    I definitely fall into the “not good enough” category. I have lived so many years trying to make everything I do, everything I have, and everything I love look “perfect!” When I think back, I can’t even really say when this personality trait began. I remember being a child, and everything had to be in it’s place in my bedroom, and even in my playroom. My mom was definitely a perfectionist. Everything had it’s place, and that was that! I think I wanted to please her by being the neat, tidy child with everything perfect. As time went on, I just continued to play that part. Always the caregiver, trying to make sure everyone was ok, and never really thinking about myself.

    About 7 years ago I was doing some counseling, and this trait was brought to light. I have been working on it since then, and I am getting there. God has shown me that I do not NEED to be perfect, only HE does!

    Since I have been doing online Bible studies through P31, I have learned so much more about myself, and I Thank God every day for leading me into these studies. I have met so many amazing ladies who genuinely care, and who truly love Jesus! I have grown so much in the past year in my relationship with The Lord, and have been able to look back and see just how far He has carried me.

    Even if I don’t win a copy of this book, I am definitely going to read it. 🙂 I know a few other people close to me that could benefit from it as well, so I will be sharing it for sure….. 🙂 <3



  14. Tayrina on Friday, July 10, 2015 at 9:38 am

    I’m in Never Good Enough! Definitely!! This book will be a great tool for me in this situation. Thanks for sharing and hosting! Blessings

    Tayrina



  15. Cheryl Lutz on Friday, July 10, 2015 at 9:44 am

    Due to my past, I have always struggled with the Never Good Enough syndrome. I’m so thankful for the growth in grace Christ has brought in my life as I slowly overcome this issue.



  16. Lynn on Friday, July 10, 2015 at 9:58 am

    I think I have a little bit of both. I’ve always been a rule follower, still am. I’ve always been made fun of for this trait and because of that I never think my actions are good enough. Like you I do retreat when someone has hurt me mainly because I think it’s my fault, I want people to like me but I’m not someone people are drawn to. When I think this way my verse is from Isaiah 53:2 “He had no beauty or majesty to attract us to him, nothing in his appearance that we should desire him.” If this was the description of Jesus then I don’t think I’m so bad.



  17. LeeAnn on Friday, July 10, 2015 at 10:04 am

    I read the syndrome titles first and surely thought I would land square in the Good Girl category. After reading the explanations of the two, I am actually a member of the Never Good Enough club. I want a closer relationship with Christ and often feel I fall short and continue to do things my way. This book looks like it was divinely inspired for me.



  18. Susan on Friday, July 10, 2015 at 10:19 am

    I am a rule follower so the Good Girl Syndrome fits me most. I would love to be free of not doing things because I know I can’t do them perfectly. If this book would help in that area then it would be a God-send!



  19. Kathy on Friday, July 10, 2015 at 10:42 am

    I definitely fall into the category of “not good enough” and always feel I’ve let myself and others down. Even if I forget to do what I intended, I beat myself up and have realized how futile this is, but I still continue in this negative self-talk. It also ties in with my co-dependency issues which have been ongoing throughout my life. Trying to live up to other’s standards kept me from achieving many goals in life. God is working within though and I feel without His grace and mercy, I would be a bitter and disillusioned woman. This book may give me more help in these areas.



  20. Stephanie G. on Friday, July 10, 2015 at 10:43 am

    Thank you for sharing! I am a Never Good Enough Girl. I have tried to be able to rid myself of this mentality but am at a loss. I would appreciate winning this book because I Believe reading this book will finally help me be free of this. God Bless you.



  21. Star on Friday, July 10, 2015 at 10:46 am

    I definitely struggle with the “Not Good Enough” syndrome. HELP!
    I know this book will help me be a more healthy, God-glorifying woman, mom, wife, teacher, friend, person! Thank you for writing this book. I need to change the pattern of my thinking for the sake of my health, my family, and the kingdom.



  22. Lori Barger on Friday, July 10, 2015 at 10:54 am

    Never Good Enough Syndrome



  23. Sandi on Friday, July 10, 2015 at 11:04 am

    You would think my age (no I am not REALLY OLD) I should be feeling at peace with myself. My last blog dealt with a bit of this. In my 20’s and early years following Jesus, I was able to laugh at my mistakes and roll with the punches. Now for some reason, I am becoming more sensitive or wanting things to go right for me to feel good about myself. Little grace for me and fear of no grace from other. Yes, I see that I want to get it PERFECT. Having leadership responsibilities in the church makes all of this very interesting and challenging. God’s Love is to free us from all bondage. Any barrier that would keep us from experiencing Him totally and sharing that love needs to be exposed. Sounds like a good book. This blog itself was a good thought provoker. 🙂
    Thanks.



  24. Nina Ruth on Friday, July 10, 2015 at 11:42 am

    Oh my goodness, says this “Never Good Enough” girl.

    Yipes!

    Has Amy been spying on me?! 🙂

    I’m in a situation of a very strained friendship right now, because of this, and my self-protective instinct is to curl into a ball and hide from the other person and anyone associated with this. 🙁

    I definitely think I need to read this book. It may help a friendship that I’m ready to give up on, but God doesn’t want to see discarded, but rather, wants to see restored!!



  25. Ellen Cole on Friday, July 10, 2015 at 11:48 am

    I’m totally a Good Girl, but sometimes feel Never Good Enough! Iused to wonder why my self esteem has always been lacking, because I was raised by the two best parents God ever put on Earth! It finally dawned on me that I was always so afraid to disappoint my parents, so had to be perfect…and since nobody is ever perfect, always felt that I wasn’t making the grade.

    Clearly I need to break up with perfect!



  26. Miranda miller on Friday, July 10, 2015 at 12:05 pm

    I am apart of the never good enough to girl. Growing up I always felt inadequate to others and that has trickled down into my adult life. This book seems like a perfect read for me. I would love to own it, but right now my finances can’t afford it. I feel very embarrassed for saying that but it the truth. I hope I am picked so I can read this seemingly wonderful that will sure to bless me and others in their lives.



  27. Leslie M. on Friday, July 10, 2015 at 12:06 pm

    I definitely with the “Good Girl Syndrome” taught to me from my parents….and now that I’m 50 I STILL struggle with it.

    I need this book this summer not only for ME but also to not pass this on to future generations!



  28. PamC on Friday, July 10, 2015 at 12:12 pm

    As a girl I think I was a Good Girl and then transitioned into Not Good Enough as an adult. It certainly robbed me of any sense of self worth for most of my life. I can’t wait to read this book of Amy’s so that I can continue on the path of recovery.



  29. Lauren on Friday, July 10, 2015 at 1:29 pm

    The Not Good Enough Girl. I’m way too hard on myself! I’m very interested in reading this book! I need to let go of the perfectionism and let God work in my life, right where I am, in the middle of it all! 🙂



  30. Debra Garcia on Friday, July 10, 2015 at 1:43 pm

    I would love to read this book to understand myself and others around me better. I am the Not So Perfect one and I work with a Perfect One and we struggle in our definition of what actually needs to be perfect! I pray often for patience and compassion and understanding. It sounds like your book might provide some great advice and insight for all of us, perfect or not so perfect, alike!!!



  31. Carelyn on Friday, July 10, 2015 at 1:45 pm

    I think I became both types of girl because of growing up with so little affirmation or validation of my feelings and thoughts. Everything I said was wrong. My perceptions about toxic people were incorrect. Feelings were not to be discussed and crying was ridiculed. I thus stuffed my feelings and always felt like everyone was better than me. I had to be “the best.” And, in retrospect, I attracted people who certainly kept this pattern going. A few years after I was born again, I saw Ephesians 1:6 … We are accepted in the beloved. I was stunned. I can remember feeling almost like I was going to pass out. It meant I was not just “OK” but ACCEPTED and ACCEPTABLE just the way I was, just because of what Jesus did on that cross for me! I did not have to be perfect. Almost immediately, I stopped needing to have every single hair in place and every spot of dust under control. I gradually realized that I could not control what other people thought, said, or did. Indeed, the only person I had any right to control was myself. Because I began to value myself more and more and had another insight that it was disrespectful to the Lord to allow myself, His special creation, to be abused or treated badly on a consistent basis, I began to choose friends more wisely. I stood up to my parents and told them if they were going to be mean to me, I hoped they did not plan on seeing much of me. It worked and they changed, Praise God! The Lord taught me that real love holds people accountable. He certainly does this. I have lost some important relationships but God is restoring me one day at a time, sending wonderful people into my life, and continuing to reassure me that many of these relationships will be restored at some point. My health dramatically improved. It has been a process, but I do not think it would have been as dramatic a healing if I had not distanced from certain people enough to get a clear view of what was going on. There is a Christian book about boundaries that really helped me see my part in this also. God bless all of you 🙂



  32. Linda S on Friday, July 10, 2015 at 2:04 pm

    I can identify with both syndromes, but I know that the “never good enough” syndrome is the one that rears it’s ugly head the most.
    Some days I’m like a typical duck swimming on the water: on the surface I’m calm, gliding along, taking in the scenery, and enjoying a piece of bread floating on the water. Look under the water and you’ll see my duck legs paddling away, moving so hard to get from one place to the next, to do all the work beneath the scenes while I present an exterior that’s worth your approval.
    It’s a tiring experience to have those “duck days”. I am my own worst critic and when someone says something that has the slightest hint of criticism, I can tell that a downward spiral of negative self-talk and anxiety is right there waiting to cripple me. Sigh. I wish it wasn’t so. I wish I would have less “duck days”, less crippling moments. I guess that I could use more healing than I know.



  33. Lori P on Friday, July 10, 2015 at 2:16 pm

    I identify with both! I’m always trying to please others, but feel like I don’t measure up. It’s a cycle that never ends and I get worn out trying to keep up. I’m constantly trying to remind myself that I don’t have to be perfect!



  34. Geralyn on Friday, July 10, 2015 at 3:11 pm

    I can be a bit of both: I try so hard to “look” right, but never feel up to the task on the inside. Both can be alienating.



  35. Christianne McCall on Friday, July 10, 2015 at 3:59 pm

    Can I say I fall into both categories somewhat? Wow! I need to read this book!



  36. Ashlie on Friday, July 10, 2015 at 4:06 pm

    I can identify with both, but mostly the Never Good Enough. I think most people I am around would be surprised buy that, but criticism can leave me completely defeated. Learning to deal with the IDEA of perfection and embracing that we never are, but HE always is and will be perfect could really help me break free.



  37. Cheryl on Friday, July 10, 2015 at 5:13 pm

    I can relate to both, but probably mostly with “never good enough girl”. The comparisons started from an early age & still continue. It’s hard to be open with people because of insecurities. This book sounds very helpful.



  38. Heather Bireley on Friday, July 10, 2015 at 5:20 pm

    I fall so much into the “Never Good Enough” Syndrome. I am always trying to do everything right according to my mother. I am always worried about how it will look to the “neighbors” that most of the time I just fail at it all. I don’t really have any friends because I can’t loosen up enough to be fun. In turn, my never good enough syndrome crosses over into how I look at others also. And my insecurities abound in great numbers.



  39. Tammy Barnard on Friday, July 10, 2015 at 5:22 pm

    Hi,
    I can see myself in both of those categories. More so the not flgood enough one. Never considered myself a perfectionist, but perhaps I seek for perfection means I’m so far from it.



  40. Susan Ruffalo on Friday, July 10, 2015 at 5:31 pm

    Add me to the doesn’t think she measures up list. That’s me to a tee.



  41. Lynn on Friday, July 10, 2015 at 7:20 pm

    I would love a copy for my beautiful daughter who has always felt she is not good enough.



  42. kara correale on Friday, July 10, 2015 at 8:51 pm

    I have always tried to be the good girl…please everybody.problem is thats not possible so i am also the not good enough girl.exhausting and yet…not good enough!!id love to read it to myself and aloud to my youngest daughter(so we could discuss it as we go.)



  43. julie on Saturday, July 11, 2015 at 12:55 am

    Somedays I strive for perfection, writing my lists, working late…. other days I spend time wondering if I am or ever will be good enough. Thankfully I know that Jesus accepts me just as I am!



  44. Jaydnn on Saturday, July 11, 2015 at 9:36 am

    I think I’m living in both Can identify with some of each…….seriously?
    Would like this good read for end of summer.



  45. Katrece on Saturday, July 11, 2015 at 12:27 pm

    It’s funny because I can most certainly identify with the Never Good Enough girl and maybe a little with the Good Girl syndrome. I feel most of my life has been lived big on the outside but small on the inside and I’m beginning to go bankrupt. I can’t afford myself anymore! Lol! The price of my flaws and all are way too expensive. But what’s funny is I’m afraid to let down walls to allow the One who could afford to purchase me and actually did, do something with me! What an awesome little conundrum I’m in! Anywho, the Lord has been working His truth in me but it has been a slow and painful death (due to my own inhibitions of letting go of what I think I can control) so I’d love to read this book to help sever more layers off! Blessings!



  46. Vicki on Saturday, July 11, 2015 at 3:27 pm

    I think I have good girl syndrome. I am always trying to do what is right, I don’t want to get into trouble, be quiet… and I am not flawless and yet I never feel good enough. If I tried harder, if I did it better, if I was quieter/louder, I have a lot of if I statements that rattle around in my head.



  47. Linda on Saturday, July 11, 2015 at 8:55 pm

    I can definitely identify with both syndromes. I am always trying to be the good girl to the point of not even knowing anymore how to go out and just have fun without being self-conscious. I have friends but after I’m with them, I’m always replaying the conversation in my head to see how “dumb” I sounded. Your book looks awesome!



  48. Jennifer D. on Saturday, July 11, 2015 at 9:35 pm

    I struggle with the “Good Girl Syndrome” and people pleasing mentality.



  49. Teresa on Sunday, July 12, 2015 at 2:32 am

    I definitely fall into the Never Good Enough Syndrome. Growing up, my mom was constantly telling me about all the bad decisions I made in my life and how disappointed she was in me. She told me I was putting a “black mark” on my family’s reputation. If God had not been with me since birth ( I was born 2 months early and almost died until my Nana got a priest to baptize me) I may have taken my life. God has been my anchor



  50. Lori A. on Sunday, July 12, 2015 at 7:23 pm

    Wow, this book sounds awesome and could probably be used for our ladies bible study. I believe most of the time I am the good girl but occasionally suffer from the not good enough girl.



  51. Tiffany Farmer on Monday, July 13, 2015 at 8:25 am

    This really hits my heart. I have dealt with anxiety for many years now and working with professional help to uncover the real issue. I have come to grips that I don’t like myself because I am not perfect. I try to be perfect at everything I do and as you know I fail at that. I worry what others think about me way too much. I really think this book is for me and really could help!



  52. scarlett allen on Monday, July 13, 2015 at 9:05 am

    I have the Never Good Enough syndrome…I feel as though I struggle to make everything look perfect on the outside to cover up very many messy emotions on the inside and if things can look good on the outside and stay that way, then I can maintain some sense of peace. The trouble is, I have a family who lives life and so I walk around grumbling about everything that needs to get done all the time and feel like I probably try to maintain the sense of perfection rather than focusing on my relationships as often as I could. I struggle daily and feel as though nothing as ever good enough. I would love to win this book.



  53. Lynn Cowell on Monday, July 13, 2015 at 2:22 pm

    Yahooo! What a great book and what a fun time we had the party, Tracie! Thank you so much for sharing Amy’s book on your site!



  54. Kimberly on Tuesday, July 14, 2015 at 1:19 am

    I jump back and forth between both of these syndromes and it is exhausting! I could relate to every word and in my daily conversations with the Lord I will even say .. Why can’t I be “perfect” inside and what I really noticed is this is really putting all the attention on me instead of keeping my eyes on Jesus and what’s important. Loving Him and sharing that love with others. I really want to walk free of people pleasing, and perfectionism as well as guilt and condemnation! Looking forward to reading this book!



  55. Danielle on Tuesday, July 14, 2015 at 2:28 am

    Definitely starting to see I’m both of these. Thankful the Lord is directing me toward freedom recently. The timing of this book is perfect, I’m going to have to get a copy!!!



  56. Darya McMurtrie on Tuesday, July 14, 2015 at 5:59 am

    Both, for sure, but more Good Girl Syndrome, I believe! Glad to see that so many others have the same struggles! I often think I’m the only one!! 🙂



  57. Rebecca on Tuesday, July 14, 2015 at 7:37 am

    Based on the description you provided, I would say I fall into the never good enough syndrome…..but I try, and try hard, with the stubborn determination of a VERY Type-A personality. But I think somewhere inside, Satan is continually whispering that it is not enough, simply never enough.

    This book sounds amazing, and is on my to-read’ list!



  58. Evelyn on Wednesday, July 15, 2015 at 12:21 pm

    I think I fall under both, trying to follow the rules set by others and myself and yet feeling like I’m not doing enough and trying so hard to please everyone for fear of rejection. It’s a daily struggle not to give in to either one and I continually have to surrender it to my Heavenly Father.



  59. Deb on Thursday, July 16, 2015 at 11:29 am

    Lately, I’ve fallen into the trap of “never good enough”; seems to raise its head when a family member makes a snide comment. My husband gently reminds me ‘Have you asked God how He sees this’ which has helped tremendously! Would love a copy of the book to read and share!



  60. Christy on Sunday, July 19, 2015 at 5:56 pm

    Both, but more so with Not Good Enough”.



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