Do you ever feel overwhelmed with all the plates you’re trying to keep in the air? Do you ever wish you could just drop a few plates and relieve some stress? Or maybe starting a new year is stressful in and of itself, because you think you have to set a bunch of self improvement or goal focused resolutions, knowing that you just don’t have the time, room or energy to add anything new to your life?
What about if instead of making New Year’s resolutions (that will probably only last for a week or two), you created a Personal manifesto or proclamation that will carry you through the rest of your life? My friends Kathi and Cheri are sharing a guest post today on my blog from their new book, that can help you learn to do just that. What better time to determine to simplify and savor life than a brand new year?!
Read their encouragement below, and then enter to win a copy of Overwhelmed by leaving a comment sharing at least one thing you could possibly take off your plate this year which would help you have greater happiness. 🙂
Learning to Love My Limits
She’s only 20, but a horseback-riding accident has left her with a back injury. If she’s careful, she will keep her ability to walk. If she’s not careful … “I’m learning to live within my limits,” she tells me.
As she speaks, I listen for self-pity but detect none. Instead, I hear the strong voice of a woman who is accepting what she can and can’t do.I admire her.
When I was her age, I was launching my “Be All Things to All People” campaign. I spent decades saying “Yes” whenever asked, volunteering when I wasn’t. Not until my own back injury did I slow down and reassess.
Why does it take an injury or illness for women to recognize that we have “limits”?
Why We Can’t Be All Things to All People
Most of us naturally rebel against the word limits. We want to keep all our options open. We want choices. We love slogans like “Be all that you can be!” and “If you can conceive it, you can achieve it!” The very air we breathe is saturated with FOMO—Fear Of Missing Out. We pour our time and energy into proving that we can “do it all.”
But what if we’re designed to do just a few things really well? What if we’re meant to specialize? In that case, wouldn’t endless possibilities become distractions from our true calling?
What if God actually means what He says in Ephesians 2:10 — that you are His masterpiece, created to do the good things He planned for you long ago? Not #AllTheThings.
Only the good things He planned for you.
No less … and no more.
It’s Time to Stop Ignoring My Limits
When I feel the urge to ignore my limits and “be all things to all people,” here are three things I’m learning to remind myself:
1) As an HSP—a Highly Sensitive Person— I’ve never been able to pull it off #AllTheThings. Not even close
2) Even when I’ve come close (as if!), nobody cared. Or even noticed, for that matter.
3) I’ve wasted more than enough time and energy trying to prove nothing to nobody.
Are any of these true for you?
The One Worthwhile Form of FOMO
There’s one form of FOMO that can help us stop trying to “do it all.” It’s the fear of missing out on the masterpiece God created you to be and the good things He’s planned for you to do. This FOMO reminds you that you are a limited edition of one.
God’s given you a few things that only you can do, and limits actually set you free. Free to focus on your one-of-a-kind specialty.
I’m giving away one copy of Overwhelmed: Quiet the Chaos & Restore Your Sanity ! For a chance to win, click here to leave a comment sharing one thing you could take off your plate this year that would lead to less stress and more happiness.
You can also sign up for great free ideas and resources about how to get out from Overwhelmed and receive “How to Write Your Personal Manifesto” as a special free gift to you by clicking here.
Kathi Lipp is a busy conference and retreat speaker and the bestselling author of several books, including Clutter Free, The Husband Project, and The Get Yourself Organized Project. She and her husband, Roger, live in California and are the parents of four young adults.
Cheri Gregory spends her weekdays teaching teens and weekends speaking at women’s retreats. She’s been married to her college sweetheart, Daniel, for more than 28 years. The Gregorys and their young adult kids, Annemarie and Jonathon, live in California.